New IGP's wife dies
By Kolade Adeyemi




source:www.thenationonlineng.net

New IGP's wife dies
By Kolade Adeyemi

source:www.thenationonlineng.net

The new Inspector-General of Police, Mohammed Dikko Abubakar yesterday lost his wife Hajiya Mariam Abubakar.
P.M.NEWS learnt this morning that Mariam, who was based in the US, died in Kano, Kano State, Northwest Nigeria yesterday evening.
She was said to have died as a result of an undisclosed ailment.
As at press time, arrangements were in top gear to bury Mariam at the Taurani cemetery in Kano today.
It was learnt that Abubakar has arrived Kano for the burial.

Is she the only wife?
How come she lived at the family house in Kano and died there and he is somewhere else wearing uniform and smiling to cameras.So much for a loving husband
I bet you he may have 3 other wives servicing him and may not even miss her that much
May her children and relatives be comforted (if he left her to die alone)

Minini?!(Na wetin?) As a muslim, he is entitled to four wives. Until last week s appointment that threw him into the limelight, he probably was always at her bedside soon as duty allowed.

Lets pray for the deceased s sweet repose and may Allah console the widower too. Losing his wife is not easy, most especially at a time when his cup of joy runneth over!

I am sure you will not like it if it turned out that was his only wife! How do you appease him?!

PM news says she lived in the US and from her age she must have been the first wife before other women started arriving.
There is nothing in Islam that mandates having 4 wives
It is just a reason for men to run around and acquire extra women
You know what disdain I have for polygamists
He couldn't really have loved her ,you can't love someone and have other wives so my sympathy is to her children and her relatives.

My sister,

Dont kill me with laughter o! Even though we should treat the matter soberly. MD as a muslim is entitled as of right to marry four wives and if he exercised it, it matters very little if you admire or have disdain for polygamists. Late Mrs MD could have relocated to the USA most probably to have access to what ailed her in her lifetime. At such times, her health mattered more than who is warming MD s bed.

You can not even decide if he loved her or not, simply because its assumed he became a polygamist, due most probably because of reasons beyond his control...(body no be wood)!

Now to holy,holy monogamists! Can you vouch for all the men you know that they have been FAITHFUL to their single married wives? So, which one is more condemnable...the recognized polygamist or the Tiger Woods-type? See? No perfect union in human affairs, everyone just dey manage.

A loving sister once sent me a joke. The husband was 85, dying and he held his old wife s hand and asked her if she was ever unfaithful to him.
Sighing, madam said: \"You remember when you were eager for that promotion? I met your boss and he signed it!\"

\"Ehen\"?, the husband asked again. The wife replied: \"You remember when our mortgage was overdue and I had to go and meet the Bank Manager...and he gave us more period of grace\"?

\"And then...?\" asked the husband.

The wife said:\"You remember when you wanted to become the Chairman of the Sports Club and you complained that seven Committee members were blocking your way?\"

\"Aaaaaaaaaaah!\" The husband succumbed to cardiac arrest!

My sister,

Dont kill me with laughter o! Even though we should treat the matter soberly. MD as a muslim is entitled as of right to marry four wives and if he exercised it, it matters very little if you admire or have disdain for polygamists.Late Mrs MD could have relocated to the USA most probably to have access to treating what ailed her in her lifetime. At such times, her health mattered more to her than to bother about who is warming MD s bed.

You can not even decide if he loved her or not, simply because its assumed he became a polygamist, due most probably because of reasons beyond his control...(body no be wood)! Some polygamists love their wives, even if not equally.

Now to holy,holy monogamists! Can you vouch for all the men you know that they have been FAITHFUL to their single married wives? So, which one is more condemnable...the recognized polygamist or the Tiger Woods-type? See? No perfect union in human affairs, everyone just dey manage.

A loving sister once sent me a joke. The husband was 85, dying and he held his old wife s hand and asked her if she was ever unfaithful to him.
Sighing, madam said: \"You remember when you were eager for that promotion? I met your boss and he signed it!\"

\"Ehen\"?, the husband asked again. The wife replied: \"You remember when our mortgage was overdue and I had to go and meet the Bank Manager...and he gave us more period of grace\"?

\"And then...?\" asked the husband.

The wife said:\"You remember when you wanted to become the Chairman of the Sports Club and you complained that seven Committee members were blocking your way? I MET them all!\"

\"Aaaaaaaaaaah!\" The husband succumbed to cardiac arrest!



She voluntarily killed him...with LOVE!

I agree 100% with you here, Baba Agens.
It is best when a (polygamist) man openly declares what he is up to, then the wife or wives as the case may be, will know what they are dealing with. So many polygamist are infact safer than the treacherous holier than thou monogamist man or woman.

I have realised that polygamists are infact the biggest cowards in love. While they pride on conquering and bedding assorted women, they are infact very threatened and jealous to loose their own woman to another man or the imagination of another man coming near their wife.
My own dad is one and he is said to have been so madly jealous and always possesive of my own mum, that he would do or give away almost anything in order to saboutage or prevent my mum from any social contacts with other men, beyond his control. Even when it is something that he badly needs, he will deny it as long as my mum does not have the opportunity to associate with another guy he fears his intentions. One of his homes was delayed completion for several years, only due to the fact that he did not trust leaving my mum alone to handle the project with the contractor ( the owner of the building company that he uses) in that particular city.

I guess every madness has its own special cure. I say to those women caught up in a polygamy arrangement, to please go elsewhere to keep engaging or doing your things (career advancement, meaningful business or even hooking up with another lover) or what ever it is that makes you happy in order to relieve the bitterness of jealousy and to keep your sanity intact from an insatiable fool - husband.

I know this now because I am with a wonderful and very great man who has a big (No saint here) past and honestly I just can't, don't and won't ever trust him for any fidelity purposes. So, right now I am more than ever before very much happy to enjoy the freedom of self indulgence; but also knowing fully that at the end of day I still got a good man who has my back, regardless of his helpless weakness or silly ways.

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May the soul of the deceased here rest in peace with the Lord. Amen !

I am with a wonderful and very great man who has a big (No saint here) past and honestly I just can't, don't and won't ever trust him for any fidelity purposes. So, right now I am more than ever before very much happy to enjoy the freedom of self indulgence; but also knowing fully that at the end of day I still got a good man who has my back, regardless of his helpless weakness or silly ways.

Is she the only wife?
How come she lived at the family house in Kano and died there and he is somewhere else wearing uniform and smiling to cameras.So much for a loving husband
I bet you he may have 3 other wives servicing him and may not even miss her that much
May her children and relatives be comforted (if he left her to die alone)

FL,

Is it because she is not Igbo, that you are grossly insensitive to the IG? Hausa men are usually more caring and loving than your Nna brothers. I have the opportunity to observe both daily, unlike you that interacts with nnas’ only.

FL,

Is it because she is not Igbo, that you are grossly insensitive to the IG? Hausa men are usually more caring and loving than your Nna brothers. I have the opportunity to observe both daily, unlike you that interacts with nnas’ only.

The wife of the Inspector-General of Police (IGP), Alhaji Mohammed Abubakar is dead. Hajia Maryam Dikko Abubakar died yesterday in her family home on Gwandu Albasa Quarters, Kano. Her shocking death came a few days after her husband assumed office as the IGP. Although the exact cause of her death was not known immediately, it was gathered however, that the 47-year old Hajia died during a brief illness.

She was buried according to Islamic rites yesterday at the Taurani Cemetery in the state capital, amid tears from her relations and sympathizers. Members of her immediate family were shocked by her death, given that she was convalescing from sickness when her death occurred.

“We are surprised at her death as there was no sign that she was in such a bad shape. Though she has earlier shown signs of falling health and was placed on medication, she died immediately after returning from hospital,” a family-member said in Kano on Tuesday.

Abubakar was flown into the state at about 11:30am and soon after, led the burial rites.
After the interment, sympathizers and friends of the IGP, moved to his family home to join the rest of the Muslims to pray for the repose of the soul of his wife.

Meanwhile, condolence messages from eminent Nigerians have been trailing the IGP’s wife’s death with President Goodluck Jonathan expressing shock at her demise. Jonathan, who is attending the African Union Summit in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia, in a condolence message to the IGP, described her death as “sad, painful and untimely” coming especially at this time when her husband needed her moral and emotional support as he faces the challenge of ensuring national security in his new post.
The President who lauded the deceased’s concern about the plight of the less privileged, particularly orphans, also praised her several charity works even before she became the President of the Police Officers’ Wives Association (POWA).
On behalf of the Federal Government, the President prayed Almighty Allah to grant the soul of Hajia Maryam eternal rest and grant her husband and family the strength to bear the irreplaceable loss.

He also sent a four-man Federal Government delegation to the burial led by the Minister of Police Affairs, Capt. Caleb Olubolade. Other members of thedelegation included the Minister of Mines and Steel, Musa Mohammed Sada; his Labour and Productivity counterpart, Emeka Wogu and the Head of the Service of the Federation, Isa Bello Sali.

Also condoling with the bereaved family, Senate President David Mark said he was saddened that Maryam died at a time when her supportive hands were needed by her husband to pilot the affairs of the Nigerian Police Force.
His words: “I earnestly share in your pains and wish that Almighty Allah in His infinite mercies grant you and the entire family the fortitude to bear this great loss.”
While commiserating with the IGP, Oyo State Governor Ajibola Ajimobi, in a statement issued yesterday his Special Adviser on Media, Dr. Festus Adedayo, described Mariam’s death as shocking, disheartening and highly unfortunate.

Ajimobi also expressed regret that her death was coming at a time her husband needed her moral and spiritual support at tackling the security challenges confronting the country, particularly, the Boko Haram menace.
While extolling the deceased’s virtues, the governor acknowledged her charity works as well as her commitment to the cause of the less-privileged in the society.
He urged the IGP not to allow the death of his wife to dampen his spirit, rather, he should take it as an act of God, noting that death is a supreme prize which all mortals must pay.
The governor therefore, prayed God to grant the soul of the deceased eternal rest, and the husband as well as the entire family the fortitude to bear the irreparable loss.

Former Governor of Lagos State, Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu, described Maryam’s death as a “rude shock and a sad development”. The Action Congress of Nigeria (ACN) leader, in a statement said, “the news of the sudden death of your wife came to me as a rude shock. I’m indeed saddened by this development as a father and husband myself and I can only pray God almighty Allah would grant her soul repose…may you find the courage and fortitude to bear this irreparable loss.”
He urged the IGP to take heart, stay focused and consider the incident as an inspiration that will spur him onto greater heights in the service of the country and humanity at large.

Lateesha! Lateeshaa!! Lateeshaaa!!! The First Lady of her own Kitchen. Auspy and Suspy need your attention here.

Is she the only wife?
How come she lived at the family house in Kano and died there and he is somewhere else wearing uniform and smiling to cameras.So much for a loving husband
I bet you he may have 3 other wives servicing him and may not even miss her that much
May her children and relatives be comforted (if he left her to die alone)

Lateesha! Lateeshaa!! Lateeshaaa!!! The First Lady of her own Kitchen. Auspy and Suspy need your attention here.

Folks:

My personal opinion is that if a man can have more that one wife, would it not be okay for a woman to have more than one husband? If you think otherwise, then you must be those who think woman are lesser beings.

One thing I know is that my mother, my wife, and my sister are not lesser beings; they are female. Why would any civilized society treat their women like commodities. Even Yar'adua when he was alive gave his young daughter to a man who already had three wives.

Any man who is married to more than one woman is morally bankrupt. Quote me.

Paschal Ukpabi, Esq.

..any man who is married to more than one woman is morally bankrupt..