Nigerian man stabs wife to death

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A Hampton man is in jail charged with killing his wife.

John Anya Onwuka was arrested early Monday.

Gloria Uchechi-Anya Onwuka, 42, was stabbed to death and found inside her home on Estate Drive in the Farmington section around 10:00 a.m. Sunday.

Police reportedly went to the scene of the crime numerous times in the past few weeks.

Neighbors said their son had to be restrained after becoming hysterical.

Onwuka is charged with one count each of homicide and use of a knife in the commission of a felony.

A Hampton man is in jail charged with killing his wife.

John Anya Onwuka was arrested early Monday.

Gloria Uchechi-Anya Onwuka, 42, was stabbed to death and found inside her home on Estate Drive in the Farmington section around 10:00 a.m. Sunday.

Police reportedly went to the scene of the crime numerous times in the past few weeks.

Neighbors said their son had to be restrained after becoming hysterical.

Onwuka is charged with one count each of homicide and use of a knife in the commission of a felony.



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Re: Nigerian man stabs wife to death
Big-k posted on 08-29-2006, 16:02:07 PM
Salstep
I know constructive criticism from persistent negativity. Now, I certainly do not have the time nor the patience for infantile exchanges. Again if you have no substantial comment on this topic, move on.

Akinyi,
Thanks for railing us back.
Re: Nigerian man stabs wife to death
Katampe and Akinyis Wife posted on 08-29-2006, 16:05:19 PM
QUOTE:
WaleAkin & Big K,

So far you both have spoken well.

You both have identified cultural differences and misuse of the freedoms granted women in the west by naija women as some root causes of the marital problems.

Big K says \"Marital problems are the biggest issue facing Nigerians abroad today...We are facing pressures of balancing traditional african culture (where the Man provides and the woman takes care of the home) with western demands (where both man and wife are income earners)....\"

I will add here that the pressures from our extended family back home adds to the mountain of marital problems we are forced to deal with. Once you are abroad, you are looked upon as the money king of the family whether you are a husband or wife. Wives are no longer expected to be the Vice President of the Union. Instead, like Atiku they are prepared to take on the husband so as to meet their extended family obligations.

The wives just like the husbands are now expected to build houses for their fathers, mothers, pay schools fees for their siblings and bring every sibling and family dogs and chickens to Abroad.

Once this problem is recognized in our homes, COMMUNICATION to set standards is a good avenue to finding solutions.


First my condolences to the deceased. May her Chilren and family find consolation and comfort.

A poor woman is dead, and immediately the blame game on the Nigerian Woman begins. She must have done something to deserve it. The irrational logic of people like Akinyis and the Katampes of this world will never cease to amaze. A Nigerian man kills his wife, and the root cause is immediately traced and blamed on Nigerian Women whose eyes America and the Western world has opened. If it was a Nigerian woman who had killed her husband, guess who gets the blame? you're right: It is also the Nigerian women whose eyes are open by the West. The Nigerian man can never be wrong. Wonders of ignorance shall never cease to be amazing. May the Katampes and the Akinyis of this world find women who will grind their noses on the ground. May they marry a feminist in disguise who will pretend until she has hooked them and make mince meat of their blokos.
Re: Nigerian man stabs wife to death
Katampe posted on 08-29-2006, 16:06:13 PM
@Akinyi,

I think you are right, and until people start tackling this issue of madness in some different way we might continue to have pockets of this kind of incidents.It is indeed very humbling,but I don't think it is only our IBO brethen alone.It cuts across men and women, and commentators and writers of divisive articles between the sexes may also fall in this insanity category.It is the degree of rage that differs.Some come online to visit it on an unsuspecting virtual community, others on their spouses and end up killing them.

May the Lord have mercy on our souls!
Re: Nigerian man stabs wife to death
Palamedes posted on 08-29-2006, 16:10:25 PM
salstep

This chap that calls himself salstep is in self denial. He cannot understand the importance of the story? He dismissed Stephen Lawrence death as something in the past; he dismissed Damilola Taylor death as simply stabbing by black boys; and the case of Ese, as merely the victim of UK\EU laws. And of course, if he has his way, he would throw me out of the UK. As far as this naïve and despicable sod is concern, he just tells it like he sees it.
Re: Nigerian man stabs wife to death
Rose posted on 08-29-2006, 16:22:50 PM
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WHEN YOU ARE THROUGH JUDGING THE DEACEASED AND ALL THE WOMEN THAT AMERICA AND EUROPE HAS GIVEN TOO MUCH FREEDOM, GOD WILL JUDGE YOU. I HOPE YOU WILL BE READY FOR THE WRATH TO COME.

That's the part that gets me. Especially when the same thing is already happening back home. What's the excuse then?
Re: Nigerian man stabs wife to death
Salstep posted on 08-29-2006, 16:25:13 PM
QUOTE:
Salstep
I know constructive criticism from persistent negativity. Now, I certainly do not have the time nor the patience for infantile exchanges. Again if you have no substantial comment on this topic, move on.

Akinyi,
Thanks for railing us back.


WHATEVER, Mr moderator.

QUOTE:
salstep

This chap that calls himself salstep is in self denial. He cannot understand the importance of the story? He dismissed Stephen Lawrence death as something in the past; he dismissed Damilola Taylor death as simply stabbing by black boys; and the case of Ese, as merely the victim of UK\EU laws. And of course, if he has his way, he would throw me out of the UK. As far as this naïve and despicable sod is concern, he just tells it like he sees it.


Palamedes,
See big K's post below:

QUOTE:
Originally Posted by Big K View Post

I know constructive criticism from persistent negativity. Now, I certainly do not have the time nor the patience for infantile exchanges. Again if you have no substantial comment on this topic, move on.


When someone doesn't conform to the norm, u want to jump down his throat. I have said what i said, u either like or u don't. Take it how u like.

Moving on.........
Re: .Nigerian man stabs wife to death
Rose posted on 08-29-2006, 16:25:25 PM
@fredlintaz...very well said. Folasayo is always on point IMO and I applaud all her efforts and wisdom.
Re: Nigerian man stabs wife to death
Anike posted on 08-29-2006, 16:48:44 PM
May this woman's soul rest in perfect peace and may God grant her kids and loved ones the heart to get through.

What could have led this rageaholic to stab his wife to death? What in the world could they have argued about that he couldn't even stop to think of his kids even if jail or his life did not mean anything to him? What could she have done that he thought he had the right to end her life?

I hope other couples going through unpleasant situations in their homes/relationships seek help before it is too late. The Nigerian tradition frowns against washing our dirty linens in public so, rather than couples realizing that they need to seek help and address the real issues between them, couples pretend like all is okay and the problem persists and worsen.
Na real Wa..
Auspicious posted on 08-29-2006, 17:04:55 PM
QUOTE:
Originally Posted by Big K:
Salstep
I know constructive criticism from persistent negativity. Now, I certainly do not have the time nor the patience for infantile exchanges. Again if you have no substantial comment on this topic, move on.

Big K,

I sympathize with you o jere. The torture some of us have to go through in the attempt to be civil! Sigh..

These threads reeks of the very thing that holds us back as a people. A woman died from the vicious attacks from her husband. The news reaches NVS and is posted therein. People come in to comment as with other articles and news stories.

Then some folks think someone's comments trivialize the issue and, rather than focus on EXACTLY how he was wrong and correct him, they run him down, lambast him and judge him. Another person expresses his views from another angle that sought to understand why marriages fail but he is villified by someone else who does not agree with his views - and he is further condemned for his taste in the articles he features/allows on the website - by the way. And some others come in, and in that Holier than Thou manner, to preach at others for daring to approach the unfortunate news story from all the different angles; claiming God will judge those who have judged (commented?) on the individuals involved in the events that led to the death of a wife and a mother.

Until we learn to be less controlling, judgemental/hypocritical and dictatorial of others, we are bound to continue to have such bad altercations and problems arising amongst us. People should be free to comment however they feel like without being harangued by any other person. Don't hate the player, hate the Game - they say. If something does not agree with you, respond by focusing on the issue (not the person) and if the other person refuses to see things your way. Move the heck on. Ahn-ahn, kilode!

May the kids not suffer for the sins they did not commit...and again, my the woman's loved ones find the fortitude to bear their loss.


Auspicious.
Re: Nigerian man stabs wife to death
Techsista posted on 08-29-2006, 17:23:09 PM
Although I haven't found much on culturally competent counseling services for Nigerian couples in the US, I have found a book psychologists recommend for people with anger management problems. It's "The Anger Management Sourcebook" by Glenn Schiraldi and Melissa Kerr. Biggest hurdle: getting someone with anger issues to agree that they have a problem and to calm down long enough to read a book. Anyone with info on culturally competent counseling services in the US, please share.
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