I will be turning 50 this year. A college friend of mine that I hadn't seen since 1998 invited me to visit him in East Africa. He has been asking me to come for a visit since we linked up again about three years ago, even offering to buy my plane ticket. When I asked him when he would like me to visit, he stated around Easter which falls around my birthday. When I informed my wife, she says I cannot go because she wants us to do celebrate my birthday together because this is a special birthday. So, is turning 50 a special marker in my life that it demands I celebrate it with my wife? I think my wife is a clinger that even when I am travelling to Nigeria she wants to go with me. When I initially informed him last year that my friend wants me to visit him in East Africa, she asks if she can go with me. Since my friend is not a mutual friend of ours, though he is married too, I don't think we both will enjoy the trip. Plus I want to enjoy being with my friend alone. May be next time, after knowing his family, I can take my family to meet his. Am I being inconsiderate or my wife is a clinger that wants to be with me 24/7? I know she is, but I am very independent, soft hearted and does not like roforofo fight (don’t like sleeping on the couch though, however, man must put his foot down).She is even spoiling the trip that I don't know if I will be going or not because she is making me feel guilty like I was doing something wrong. Does marriage mean you have to go everywhere with your spouse?