One day in October 2003, a friend that I was not particularly close to at the time called me, in despair.
She opened with "Did you know I am 5 months pregnant?"
I told her no since I lived in a different town and she had not mentioned it to me.
At which point I went ahead and congratulated her on the good news.
She told me how she had been through 4 Miscarriages prior to that pregnancy, and was even suicidal at some point, because of that.
She then through tears, told me how she had just gone for an ante-natal check up, and had also had the results of some earlier tests given to her.
She was told that based on the tests, the child would most likely be born with Down's syndrome and probably with other congenital defects both physical and or mental.She was adviced to have an aminio..wharreva done, and the risk of a miscarriage as a consequence was explained to her.
She was distraught at this stage.
He Husband is the typical Pontius Pilate.....when she asked him what to do...he lobbed the ball back to her court for a decision.
And told her that whatever she decided was OK with him.
They had a 6yr old girl already and she was desperate for another child.
When she called me, I asked her One question....Do you see you capable of loving this child...even if it comes out disabled in one form or the other?She said YES.
I told her "Have your Child then"
She went on to have a baby girl in Feb 2004. NOT one single thing was wrong with this child.
When it comes to Parenting especially motherhood, we have a purpose.
We are only caretakers. We are not owners.
Creation has a reason for giving us that role. And there is perfection in the Universe.
My answers to that question is YES..the Child will be born and loved even if its for an hour, day, week, months, years, eternity.
By the Way.....I am Pro Choice.