'He Made That Mistake Because He Needed Help': Rihanna Breaks Down As She Opens Up To Oprah About Chris Brown Assault .

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Fans of Rihanna are eagerly awaiting her upcoming interview with Oprah Winfrey, in which the star will open up about her relationship with Chris Brown.

And what she has to say about her ex-boyfriend, who was convicted of assaulting her three years ago, in the prerecorded interview will come as a surprise to some.

The 24-year-old tells the host: 'I felt like the only person they hate right now is him. It was a weird, confusing space to be in.


Tearful: Rihanna breaks down as she discusses Chris Brown with Oprah Winfrey in an upcoming TV interview


Tears: Rihanna sobbed as she talked about the terrible night her boyfriend attacked her

'Because as angry as I was - as angry and hurt and betrayed - I just felt like he made that mistake because he needed help. And who's going to help him? Nobody's going to say he needs help, everybody's going to say he's a monster, without looking at the source. And I was more concerned about him.'

Previously released preview clips of the upcoming TV special Oprah: The Next Chapter, showed Rihanna describe the fall-out from the horrific night after a pre-Grammy party.
She said: 'It was embarrassing it was humiliating... I lost my best friend.'


So difficult: The singer was armed with a tissue as she started to open up about the infamous incidence

Oprah is then seen asking series of probing questions concerning Rihanna's past and present relationship with Brown, including 'Do you think Chris Brown is a true love for you?' and 'Where does your relationship stand today?'

While producers saved Rihanna's answers for the actual episode, her replies managed to shock the talk show queen.

Oprah exclaims: 'I would have never thought that. You just shocked me.'
In one of the promos ahead of the episode, Oprah, 58, reveals she had a pre-conceived idea of what to expect when she travelled to the singer's home country of Barbados.

During the documentary, which was filmed on August 5, Rihanna went back to her childhood home in the island capital Bridgetown.


It still hurts: The ripples from the fall out still affect the singer today

Speaking to camera in the preview, Oprah said: 'I went there with my own ideas about who she was from watching her videos and listening to her music.

'I thought she was gonna be kind of a bada**, a kind of hard edged, rocker, pop woman. Nothing could have been farther from the truth.'

Over clips of the interview and footage of Rihanna driving Oprah to visit her old neighbourhood, Oprah said: 'She was thoughtful... She was very emotional... She was vulnerable.'

In brief segments from the one-to-one on the sofa, Rihanna admitted: 'I am super duper terrified of the pedestal that comes with fame...
'It's amazing how lonely you can feel.'

As well as crying, Rihanna also burst into laughter when Oprah commented on her frequent use of the F-word.
Oprah also praised Rihanna for her skills behind the wheel: 'First of all I'm surprised by what a good driver she is.'

Visiting her former home, Rihanna appears down-to-earth and humble as she chats to her old neighbours and embraces local children.

Teasing viewers to watch the interview, she said: 'She pushes the edge a lot, and there's a reason for that.'
Rihanna's appearance on Oprah's OWN channel comes three years after the talk show queen made a public appeal to the singer to leave her ex-boyfriend Chris Brown.

Oprah spoke out a month after Rihanna was assaulted by the R&B singer, amidst rumours at the time they were still together.

The TV presenter said in 2009: 'If a man hits you once, he will hit you again. He will hit you again. It makes me so sad. Love doesn't hurt.

'Both Chris Brown and Rihanna, if I were your friend, I would call you up and say give it some time. Get yourself some counseling. Take care of yourself. Heal yourself first.'

Winfrey is hoping the Rihanna special will help her struggling network continue its comeback

It has has seen viewership increase by 25 per cent since the start of the year, though from a very low starting baseline.

Discovery have just revealed they expect the network to start making money at the end of 2013.

- The Rihanna interview will air on OWN on August 19.


Ex factor: Rihanna's ex-boyfriend Chris Brown was spotted shopping in New York City last week

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What is the Oprah show some therapy place where they all go and bawl their eyes out?


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[emj]

Hmmmm ....interesting hype.....will wait to watch before I comment further ..

I think I need to visit my old neighborhood .....that is before I became a Countess Abi Countessa ...lols
We famous people have a way of being very vulnerable when it is necessary ..

Time to up my game ...

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Hmmmm ....interesting hype.....will wait to watch before I comment further ..

I think I need to visit my old neighborhood .....that is before I became a Countess Abi Countessa ...lols
We famous people have a way of being very vulnerable when it is necessary ..

Time to up my game ...

Yep my thoughts too, interesting indeed.

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We famous people have a way of being very vulnerable when it is necessary ..

Time to up my game ...

I'm loving your zingers this evening, EMJ.

But, yeah, the girl in question sounds artificial alright.

But like I maintained from the get-go, it's her life, her choice, to be with Brown or not:


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[Olamide]

Any of these wishy-washy so-called 'stars' will give their right eyes to be interviewed by Oprah (the Queen of make-believe). the crying is all part of the show because it is expected that you go there to shed crocodile or alligator tears. Oprah herself is too fake for me even though I admired her courage to achieve all she achieved with her life. Nothing about her is spontaneous. From the look of pretended kindness, to the probing questions and the fake emphathy, it is all planned to a T. I admire her ability to enjoy the advantages of make-believe in a real world.

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Rihanna accused of 'sanctioning' violence after defending Chris Brown

Cry for help? Rihanna pictured after she was beaten by Chris Brown ahead of the Grammy Awards in 2009 and right tearful on Oprah's show

Rihanna has been accused of sending out a dangerous message to other victims of domestic violence after admitting she still 'misses' her ex-boyfriend who was charged with assaulting her three years ago.

Rihanna's turbulent two-year relationship with rapper Chris Brown ended after he attacked her on the eve of the Grammy Awards in 2009.

But in an interview with Oprah Winfrey, due to be broadcast in the U.S. tonight, the Bajan beauty says Brown 'made a mistake' and 'needed help' adding that she misses him.

Charities have criticised the comments claiming they could reduce the seriousness of abusive relationships.
Vivienne Hayes, chief executive of the Women's Resource Centre, told The Independent: 'Rihanna's case demonstrates the emotional complexities felt by women locked in abusive relationships.

'Whatever the nature of the argument, [Brown] chose to beat her up. And we need to stop society allowing us to normalise such behaviour.'

Rihanna has admitted she 'was more concerned about' her 'best friend' Chris Brown after the singer's vicious attack on her three years ago.

The pop star revealed: 'I'm reminded by a lot of things. A lot of good memories we had. By the slightest things; hotel rooms, tour venues, any little thing, music, songs, and I do miss him at times.'

In the clip, shot for Oprah's Next Chapter, the 58-year-old presenter revealed the Umbrella singer 'talks a lot, a lot, a lot about you know who, Mr. Chris Brown.'

Brown was sentenced to five years probation and six months of community labour after his attack of Rihanna.
In the previously-released preview of the highly-anticipated interview, Rihanna also admitted that she had 'felt protective' of Brown following the 2009 beating.

'I lost my best friend. Like, everything I knew switched - switched overnight,' she tearfully said of the 'embarrassing' incident.

'Who's gonna help him? Nobody's gonna say he needs help. Everybody's gonna say he's a monster without looking at the source. I was more concerned about him.'

Brown and his lawyer Mark Geragos are currently fighting a $16million lawsuit filed by Entertainment Enterprises this week alleging that the hip-hop star and Drake caused the W.i.P. bar brawl which left several injured in June.

It is believed the violent row erupted over the artists' alleged relationships with Rihanna.

The Talk That Talk star is also said to have dated Shia LaBeouf, Josh Hartnett, and Los Angeles Dodgers star Matt Kemp, but she shared with Oprah the qualities she's yet to find in her ideal man.

'If I had it my way I want a man that loves me, cherishes me, values me, but they have to know my value in order to value me,' she said.
'They have to know my worth and they can only know my worth if I know my worth. I want them to respect me.'

Rihanna continued: 'But I want fun times! I want fun, fun times. I want laughs. I want laughs more than everything. I have everything else, all I want is a partner in crime to enjoy it with me.'

Speaking to camera in the preview, Oprah said: 'I went there with my own ideas about who she was from watching her videos and listening to her music.

'I thought she was gonna be kind of a bada**, a kind of hard edged, rocker, pop woman. Nothing could have been farther from the truth.'

But the provocative singer admitted: 'I am super duper terrified of the pedestal that comes with fame... It's amazing how lonely you can feel.'


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The Talk That Talk star is also said to have dated Shia LaBeouf, Josh Hartnett, and Los Angeles Dodgers star Matt Kemp, but she shared with Oprah the qualities she's yet to find in her ideal man.

For a 24 year old girl she has been around.. Anyway that is besides the point her tears seem quite timed!!
She seems so forgiving for the camera.. That does not excuse what Chris Brown did No man should hit a woman .

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For a 24 year old girl she has been around..

We hear you Mother Teresa.......... On a serious note, I thought Oprah Winfrey retired last year? That old woman sef!

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We hear you Mother Teresa.......... On a serious note, I thought Oprah Winfrey retired last year? That old woman sef!

Abi now, what is your view on this issue leave my sainthood to later in the year

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Don't judge Rihanna. I know how hard it is to break free from a violent lover

By SONIA POULTON

Early one Saturday, my partner Tim and I were enjoying a lazy morning in bed. We chatted idly about how we intended to spend the weekend.

Soon we were making outlandish suggestions such as 'visit Mars' and 'change the world', laughing as we outdid each other.

Then the atmosphere changed. I can't even remember why — it just did. But instinctively I knew we had entered dark territory.

Abusive boyfriend: Sonia Poulton's partner could become abusive toward her just minutes after laughing and with her. It was then she instinctively knew they had entered 'dark territory'

Within minutes, Tim had accused me of flirting with a work colleague. Given that my colleague was openly gay, I laughed at the idea. Tim was not amused and his eyes narrowed and sparked with anger.

Seconds later he jumped from our bed, grabbed me roughly by my arms and hoisted me into the air, slamming me hard against the bedroom wall, all the while screaming obscenities at me.

Then he spat in my face.

I froze on the spot and experienced what I can only describe as out-of-body detachment. Like I was watching this madness happen to someone else.

Tim dropped me to the ground. I grabbed my clothes and fled the house, tears cascading down my face, vowing never to return to him.

Yet within 24 hours I was back in his arms.
You may call me crazy. I wouldn't blame you. It is a form of madness to return to an abusive partner. But I did.

And that's why I found myself empathising with pop star Rihanna this week when she admitted still having feelings for her ex, Chris Brown, who was found guilty of assaulting her during an argument three years ago.

She told Oprah Winfrey that Brown was 'the love of my life' — sparking anger from domestic violence charities who say she is sending out the message to her young fans that violence in relationships is acceptable.

On this occasion, I feel the need to defend Rihanna and, believe me, as a mother of a teenage daughter there are many things I abhor about the provocative star. But being honest about her feelings for a man she was in love with is not one of them.

It's easy for those who have not been abused to be judgmental about those who feel almost a compulsive need to return to their abusers. Oblivious to the complex dynamics involved, they assume the answer is simple — that if a person is abusive, you leave them and never return.

But it's not that simple, as I found out.
I met Tim in the early Nineties when I was 28-year-old music journalist living in West London and he a 32-year-old musician.

We met at a mutual friend's barbecue and I was immediately attracted to the mischievous glint in his eye and his dry sense of humour.

He was fantastically charming — as, I've learned since, so many abusers are — and complimented me endlessly about my appearance and knowledge of music. He was also chivalrous, re-filling my drink, getting me food from the barbecue and opening doors for me. I was instantly smitten.

When we discovered we lived 15 minutes apart, we thought it was fate and arranged to meet the following day. For the next three years we were barely apart.

But we shared more than just a love of music. We both came from 'dysfunctional backgrounds' as modern psychological parlance would put it.

My father, Donald, left our family home in 1967, when I was three, and I never saw him again. My mother, Elizabeth, died of an inherited kidney disease when I was 11 and I was left in the care of my three older siblings and their partners.

My teenage years were a nightmare. I was a mess of obsessive compulsive disorder and bulimia nervosa and had attempted two overdoses by the age of 13. At 18, I left our Gloucestershire village and moved to London. I wanted to start again and leave the misery of my childhood far, far behind.

Tim, also, had experienced a shaky start in life. His father left his mother while she was pregnant with him and he was primarily raised by his maternal grandmother and her physically abusive husband.

Our backgrounds made fertile ground for the unstable and destructive relationship that followed.
Psychologists would call it a textbook case of two people being caught in a seemingly inescapable cycle of rejection and abuse. When you're knee-deep in it, like I was, you feel you're in a nightmare that will never have an end.

Most violence in relationships starts subtly. A criticism here, a sarcastic comment there. Nothing tangible. Just a feeling in the pit of your stomach something isn't right.
'It is a form of madness to return to an abusive partner. But I did'

It certainly did with Tim. He began chipping away at my self-esteem in the early weeks of our relationship, describing my best friend as 'a bad influence' and witheringly dismissing my job as 'not exactly saving lives, is it?'.
But it was only after three months, that I learned his true nature.

One evening we were discussing me going to New York for a week for work. He wasn't happy about it.
He said he would miss me and I thought that was sweet, but he became increasingly agitated.

He muttered something about 'partners playing away when they go away'. I laughed it off — I'd fallen in love with him, so the notion of flirting with other men couldn't have been further from my mind.

Then he called me a 'tart', saying I led men on and was the type 'to dump on them'.
Furious with the insults, I grabbed my coat and left his second-floor flat. He ran after me, calling me one vulgar expletive after another while trying to push me down each step. I desperately clung to the bannister, terrified I would fall.

On the first-floor landing, he grabbed my shoulders and slammed me against the wall. I screamed with pain and, shocked at what had unfolded, he released his grip and sank to the floor, sobbing.

I was numb and fell on the floor beside him, also in tears. That evening he cried in my arms about his childhood and how he was scared I would leave him. I vowed I never would. After all, his not being able to exist without me made me feel needed and loved.

When he promised nothing like this would ever happen again, I believed him. But, as anyone with any understanding of relationship violence will tell you, these things do happen again. And usually the violence becomes far worse.
That was certainly true of my relationship — the attacks became increasingly ferocious.

Starts subtly: For Sonia, pictured with daughter Shaye, the violence in her relationship started slowly as 'a feeling in the pit of your stomach something isn't right' with little criticisms and sarcastic comments

The worst came one Christmas when Tim lost his temper because I wanted to see my best friend for a night out, and he held a carving knife to my throat. Then, just as before, he crashed into a mess of tears and recriminations and promises that he would seek help. He never did.

So why did I stay? Well, I was deeply insecure and troubled and misguidedly felt that I was the only one who could rescue him from his own troubles. I didn't want to abandon him like his parents had. I felt it was somehow my job to make his world a happier place. Also, like many women, I focused on the positive things, just as Rihanna does now when she refers to the flowers, moonlight serenades and shared meals with Brown.

For me, I clung to the times Tim told me I was the most beautiful woman in the world and how 'blessed' he felt having me in his life.

For three years, I struggled to know if ours was a relationship worth saving, even leaving him a dozen times. But each time I was lured back by his pleas for forgiveness and promises that this time 'things really would be different'.
They never were.

Finally, I snapped. One morning we had an argument about, of all things, the fact we'd run out of loo rolls. He chased me around the flat, held me against a wall yelling that I was 'worthless' and that I made him so angry he 'could kill' me.

It was finally the shock I needed. Later that day, when he was at work, I packed up my belongings and moved in with my best friend.

The following weeks he kept calling, pleading and sobbing for me to return, and I nearly capitulated because I missed him so much. I also have to confess I missed the drama and the highs and lows such an intense relationship gave me. I had come to believe his mantra that I was worthless. That he was the only man who would ever want me.
'He cried in my arms about his childhood and how he was scared I would leave him. I vowed I never would'

You may scoff at my confession, but I believe vulnerable women often choose men who make them even more vulnerable. These women can come from any background and can feel utterly worthless regardless of intelligence, status or wealth.

Ending a relationship with anyone — even a man who has hurt you over and over again — can require a will of iron, particularly if you fell in love with the 'good' side of him.

'Ending a destructive relationship can be a difficult and painful process,' agrees psychologist Clare Meads. 'People are neither all good or all bad and after you have invested energy and emotion into a relationship it can be difficult to let it go.

'Some people return to negative relationships because they feel it's "better the devil you know" but it never is.'
Thankfully, I held firm. My best friend was supportive — she'd been telling me for months Tim was bad for me and she didn't even know the extent of the abuse: I'd been too ashamed to tell anyone.

I never returned, despite still loving him. Even three years later, when I was in a decent relationship, I harboured feelings for him.

The truth is, despite all the simplistic solutions that people apply to relationships that dissolve into domestic violence, they are hellishly complex. Feelings for someone do not dissipate the moment you decide to leave someone. My bond with Tim was too great to end the moment I walked out of the door.

So it is that I can relate to Rihanna as she refers wistfully to Chris Brown. She loved him, maybe she still does. As she said in her interview: 'It was embarrassing, humiliating, hurtful . . . I lost my best friend.'

And that — however bad the friend has behaved — is not something you can recover from overnight.

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[First-lady]

Who cares?
This small girl is not fit to feature on an NVS thread just yet from what I have read.
When a lover lands her the blow that sends her to her maker then we can talk about it
Valtee abeg bring on a sexual thread jare and fire up the lounge

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