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, Jun 23, 2009 at 11:00 PM (701 Views)

He's a nice man, really he is! Well educated, cultured, domesticated... he wants to cook me dinner tonight, he wants to go to church with me.. he wants to father my sons... so why am I not rushing for it?

When you're prepositioned every day of life by the opposite sex, you get a little spoilt... yes, I am a little spoilt. However, when God knocks on your door and says it's time to get married, then you get a little expectant and I am expectant!

It's the age thing... 11 years older than me... even Soji, my brother and first father was just 8 years older. I had made a list of my desires and I really didn't want to marry someone more than 9 years older than me... So is two years more really that big a deal?

My December guy turned out to be 15 years older than me... I was a little crushed but I eventually got over it, then another issue surfaced and we had to end it ... while I was getting over that, this man shows up and I wasn't going to think about it, really, in fact, I went back to online dating and had a few prospects, then I was distracted by a Nigerian for about two weeks, now this man is back, it's reminding me of the hare and tortoise story, while the hare slept, the tortoise won the race...

Back to the bible I go, back to the One Who created me and truly knows me, back to the everlasting arms of Elohim, I'm running into the name of Adonai, and I am, and shall be safe!

Updated Sep 27, 2009 at 04:12 AM by Oluwato

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lizmoses - Jun 24, 2009 12:02 AM
I think it is good to commit your ways to Him...so that He can direct your path.

Age, status and so many things we often look out for in our ideal men are irrelevant to finding true happiness in marriage...he may be 15 years old but with great respect for you and he may be only 15months older and not treat you with respect.

I hope you let God guide you!
Oluwato - Jun 24, 2009 05:27 PM
Thanks Lizmoses,

I am done with my issues. I am in my set time of favour and I am at peace.
shinycoin - Jun 24, 2009 08:32 PM
hhmm, if you're 35 and he is 46, i would think that may not be so bad, as he can still be considered in his prime. even if you're 40 and he is 51, matured and has the qualities you seek in a man, then i think you have yourself a good catch and should keep him.

i assume this is not your first marriage, therefore, you will be wiser in your choice of men and more discerning and less vain, in terms of your expectations and standards, knowing full well that age has nothing to do with a person's emotional, psychological, mental and spiritual maturity, thus if age difference is the only obstacle you have to finding genuine love with this gentleman, me think you should follow your heart and your gut feelings, still putting your trust in the lord, whom am sure will not ask you reject a good man becos of age.

Good luck and best regards.
Oluwato - Jun 25, 2009 10:29 PM
Thanks Shinycoin. So you think I'm 35...nice.. I'm in the 40ies...
shinycoin - Jun 26, 2009 12:56 AM
Oluwato, if you're 43 and he's 54, i would still say go for it, all you have to do is encourage him to live a healthy life style and he can live to a ripe old age of 80, with the right amount of love and attention.

In so far as he isn't 60 yet, both of you can still have at least 25-30 years of happy married life.

go for love, say i, you don't find genuine love everyday and everywhere y'know?
Oluwato - Jun 26, 2009 06:10 AM
Thanks Shinycoin. It's all in God's hands now. he will bring me to the man and led me aright!
Oluwato - Feb 24, 2010 05:58 AM
I posted this earlier on another of my blogs;

"God has helped me regarding the age issue... it is no longer a problem... Ruth and Boaz in the bible laid the foundation, so, I may marry 15 years or more older than me...."