I was watching a movie of recent about the Earth and a very near end of the world as it's known ......the earth stopped rotating and there was pandemonium and chaos plus a lot of intrigue...all the fail-safe valves and protocols were being sabotaged by some agents with deadly agenda...but then some citizens had to make use of their various unusual talent to save the situation.

They faced a lot of near death and very dangerous obstacles but at the end of the day saved the world.

A lot of relationship or rather marriages in Nigeria started well but gradually got derailed due to so many unforeseen factors.

What will you do if after several years of bliss things suddenly change?

What will you do if you find out that another woman is now the third person in your marriage?
Not only is he dating her but has children sired by him...will you kick him to the curb and in most instance pack out of the house you built together hence making it easy for the interloper to move in?






Remember you didnt set out for such terrible derailment.
Will you let go and walk away because you cant take such betrayal?
What if God tell you not to leave, will you listen or chose your way?

Will you end your marriage or even think of suicide because you cant stand a polygamous situation?


No two situation are the same.
Some people have the strength to withstand all the storm whilst others at the first whiff of infidelity will walk.



I once counselled a friend not to leave and also not to follow the same path as her husband by dating other men.
I believe in the sanctity of holy matrimony. I wont advice anyone to stay in an abusive or violent marriage. I would rather ask the person to seek the face of God whilst i pray along with them, as i believe in people seeing things for themself and with time take a decision they can live with.
God touched her heart and her husband and luckily things changed for the better.
The Holy Spirit showed her how to handle her situation and they are still very much together, raising Godly children......a family and one unit.
The mistakes of the past taken care of and very much contained.


If God can forgive us our terrible sins, who are we to hold our life partners with whom we made a vow ransom forever.

What if things continue to get worse and the Holy Spirit says stay?
Will you start binding and casting saying the message is not of God?
Will your obedience be complete or you will ignore God and help yourself(just like the person that decided to help God because she thought that she was barren and slept with another man).


Life is too short to allow your partner's mistakes to hold u ransom.
Always seek the face of God in all situation as he's the creator and all seeing one. Shut out all the noise and focus on you.
Dont neglect yourself up to the extent of looking haggard and a shadow of your former self.


Enjoy this great find....



Marriage is honorable and the bed undefiled. You can do without intimacy(yes you can). Sex is not everything, dont do tit for tart as you will be defiling yourself and sinning against God. Dont allow satan to write the last chapter of your life.


God takes us through certain path and experiences so we can better counsel others.
You cant feel the pain of others if u've not yourself felt it before.

I thank God for my life's journey and what lays ahead. My life is not mine but God's.

My prayer for all reading this blog is that your eye of understanding will be open on time to the antics of Satan to destroy homes and marriages.

Marriage is ordained by God, He's given us all the tools we need to succeed.
He promised to see us through all tribulations and the wiles of the world.
No matter what your partner does, you shld stand firm to honor God in all your ways.

Do you love God, yourself and your partner?
Will u take off at the first sign of trouble or infidelity?
Where or who will you turn to for help?

Marriage is not a bed of roses........

A man asked his wife to leave, he pushed her out.
She could have taken the house which is worth close to $1million but chose not to.
Will u call her a fool?
She initially left bitter, but now has peace. She count it as part of experience in life. If he has any conscience, he will make things right as she left with nothing. They had children together of which he pays peanuts as Child Support.
Their situation is so weird that till this day no one can point at what exactly went wrong.

So many situation as the above abound.
Each and everyone has different experience.....

My prayer is may we think every decision we intend to take through.
Never ever rush into marriage because of pressure.
Study your partner to be sure u can live with his or her short-comings and please dont sell yourself short.

I also pray for all Ministers of God that they will live what they preach as judgement will start in the house of God.
Most neglect their home and family(and at times dont give Godly counsel)...may their obedience be complete as they can only prosper spiritually, physically and materially when they take proper care of the helper God has given them.


May all those going through marital stress receive Godly and wise counsel on time.

Shalom