by, Apr 19, 2012 at 03:19 AM (736 Views)
On My Mind.........
75% of marriages this days end up in divorce.....unfortunately.
I'm beginning to think that there's no point to marriage in some instance as it seems most so called couples hardly know each other.
There's this societal and cultural expectation for two people to come together in holy or otherwise chosen marriage.
Gone are the days of one really courting or getting hitched because you actually and genuinely love each other.
Am not against marriage as i believe in it and still do. Though it's not for everybody, i fear that people jump in without giving a real thought to what lays ahead. It's a learning institute and should be treated as sacred.
There are all manner of contracts out there. Formal and informal ones.
Some and mostly in diaspora within the black community are of convenience.
More like a business contracts.
I've seen and unfortunately every month encountered couples(both white and black) going through separation and invariably divorce in the course of my work.
Some are amicable and most aint.
Trying to sort out what they have together is always one huge twister. Much more than a hybrid Tornado....it leaves me most times wondering... what in the world did they find in each other.
What made them to get hitched?
Too many intrigues and unpleasant tricks in some instance.....arrrrghhhhh.
I've also heard of breakups because of silly issues through text....dat in my opinion takes the cake.
There's a prayer said when the bride and bridegroom have received the blessings of all....E lo ra yin gbo, e ba ara yin kale...meaning you will live together even growing old gracefully together....
A jot, a thought for each other. Trusting your partner to lead the way and do you right, or rather always do right by God and by you.
Focusing on strengths rather than weakness is key.
Dispose of all form of negativity.
We are all human and vulnerable to mistakes....dont allow hurts or mistakes to destroy your relationship...
Above all, love yourself...for if u dont, then u cant really love your partner or husband......