Buying Death With Money: The Prostitute As Assassin

Buying Death With Money: The Prostitute As Assassin By Reuben Abati "When any of my customers wants to have sex with me without using condoms, I usually protest. Then we will strike a bargain and we will do it. He won't know that he is buying his death with his own money. However, there are many who will never have sex without using condoms. But I have a way of dealing with them. When I am having sex with such men, I usually shake my buttocks vigorously so as to burst the condom, and if the condom bursts and the man is carried away, he won't bother about fixing another condom". These lines are taken from a pathetic story in The Sun newspaper of Saturday, April 18. They belong to a young Nigerian lady called Sandra, who has been served the wrong end of the stick by a crazy society where the future is uncertain even for young girls, and who has chosen to become an assassin in protest. There are probably many others lik...Read the full article.

aguabata · Apr 19, 2009 , 04:31 PM

this indecent man should not be allowed to tell his dirty stories in a national paper. I've just checked the guardian paper to see if this story was published with that first paragraph and yes it was, you can highlight the HIV probem without your phallocentric illustrations. The other time you made an illustration with a man haggling with a prostitute. what is your problem?????

omo naija · Apr 19, 2009 , 04:55 PM

What a country? what a world? this is not unique to Nigeria, there are vengeful men and women on the prowl as sex assasins, these people missions in life is to infect as many as possible... This Sandra is as guilty as the men that infects her, her story is just the same story, i heard from armed robbers when they are caught, is always someone else fault... i do feel sorry for her, but there is no justification for what she did, she should be arrested and charged to court for intentional harm.

GOD HAVE MERCY ON US ALL.

ozoodoo · Apr 19, 2009 , 05:15 PM

Originally Posted by aguabata

this indecent man should not be allowed to tell his dirty stories in a national paper. I've just checked the guardian paper to see if this story was published with that first paragraph and yes it was, you can highlight the HIV probem without your phallocentric illustrations. The other time you made an illustration with a man haggling with a prostitute. what is your problem?????

What is wrong in Abati quoting the lady in the first paragraph of his piece? Isnt it better for that quote to be given the widest of coverage so that men that patronise prostitute are made aware of the huge risk they take and the danger to which they expose their wife (if they are married)?

beau d · Apr 19, 2009 , 05:38 PM

Originally Posted by aguabata

this indecent man should not be allowed to tell his dirty stories in a national paper. I've just checked the guardian paper to see if this story was published with that first paragraph and yes it was, you can highlight the HIV probem without your phallocentric illustrations. The other time you made an illustration with a man haggling with a prostitute. what is your problem?????

Aguabata, what is wrong with you? What did Abati write in the article to warrant such an attack? The guy is as forthright as he can and you are describing him as phallocentrc. What is problem?

thisworld · Apr 19, 2009 , 05:42 PM

Originally Posted by aguabata

this indecent man should not be allowed to tell his dirty stories in a national paper. I've just checked the guardian paper to see if this story was published with that first paragraph and yes it was, you can highlight the HIV probem without your phallocentric illustrations. The other time you made an illustration with a man haggling with a prostitute. what is your problem?????

What's really your problem here? The fact that Mr. Abati has written articles on issues about prostitution? Do you feel you're one of "such men"......
No need to launch into a rage. He's on the point!

Re-read the article and appreciate what its trying to convey!

Observer · Apr 19, 2009 , 06:13 PM

1.2 million Nigerians died from road accidents in 2008 alone (FRSC). This is alarming. It means Nigeria lost 3,279 souls per day in 2008. Talk of a failed state!!!

Gbolly · Apr 19, 2009 , 06:38 PM

If she was sure that the armed robbers who raped her were later arrested and made to pay for their crime, perhaps she would have been satisfied that justice had been done.

I absolutely believe that Sandra would have turned out a better person than what she is today if her accusers (rappists) have been arrested and jailed for their crime. But Nigeria being Nigeria as we know it, there is no justice. No law.

Mr. Abati, thank you for bringing this news (as bad as it is) to our attention.

nero africanus · Apr 19, 2009 , 06:46 PM

Originally Posted by Observer

1.2 million Nigerians died from road accidents in 2008 alone (FRSC). This is alarming. It means Nigeria lost 3,279 souls per day in 2008. Talk of a failed state!!!

this cannot be true , the figure is too high , first of all how many travel and how many die.....

Observer · Apr 19, 2009 , 06:55 PM

@ nero africanus

Yes, that was my initial reaction. The figure looks incredible! Has FRSC cooked up the figure or has RA quoted wrongly? Please help me out!!!

emj · Apr 19, 2009 , 08:25 PM

When soldiers raided Odi a few years ago, after sacking the community, they asked the women to line up and they raped them one after the other. The Punch newspaper published the photographs but there is no record of any soldier being punished for rape. These days, the newspapers are full of reports of rape: old men abuse young girls, campus cultists rape female students and female lecturers, fathers rape their daughters. The ones who get caught blame the Devil. The country is full of the devil's agents. Unless rape is properly criminalized by protecting the interest of the victim, the problem is bound to persist. The highways also need to become more secure.

I just finished watching The Horror In Kigali from a Canadian Journalist's eyes....and i barely finished watching how they Raped and Hacked women to death....it was a very harrowing sight(painful for me, turned to another channel several times, to avoid some scenes)......and for some reason tried to picture those Women in Odi and what was done to them...i weep for Nigerian Women and Children...Humanity is Lost.

There's no justice anywhere...Sandra's case is just one out of many...she's got the get outta jail card(can never be jailed for peddling her wares as it is, .....who wants to Sue her?...but will be cooling her feet in jail in other climes) and will continue to hold onto it till she gets real help...will justice ever be served in her case?
There are so many women who have been raped by Armed Robbers/Miscreant and their life has never remained the same(no matter the counseling)....most are a shadow of their old self....living with the painful memory and the baggages of Diseases.

PS:......Let those who want to buy death with their hard earned money and sweat continue to do so....after all they worked real hard to earn the enjoyment therein....jaiye ori e/chop da head of your life ojare.

Balo · Apr 19, 2009 , 09:54 PM

Originally Posted by nero africanus

this cannot be true , the figure is too high , first of all how many travel and how many die.....

My initial reaction too, I think he might have misquoted.

ndboy · Apr 19, 2009 , 10:25 PM

Mr Aguabata,whats wrong with calling it,as it is?What makes him phallocentric by quoting verbatim from The Sun?The house is burning and you're only worried about the landlord's long goatie.The problem with us Nigerians,is we always forget the bigger picture and keep harping on old issues.That newspaper can be read online.It was on the newstand lastweek.
It's easy to write beneath a pseudonym and criticize someone writting with his true self.O ma se oo.
Abeg,Oga RA,nice article,o jare.If this country still had leaders,we would have hoped for a response.Imagine how many lives are being derailed,while some folks worry about phalluses,"no long thing"& other centrisms.

Anioma777 · Apr 19, 2009 , 10:26 PM

When one of her friends later suggested that she could go to Lagos and become a commercial sex worker, she readily agreed. Her goal: "to make money and to infect men with HIV". And so she says: "for three years now, I have been distributing the stuff and it makes me really happy. Men are evil; they deserve no mercy. To hell with the men of this world". By the reporter's calculations, Sandra would have infected about 4, 640 men with HIV in the last three years, at the rate of four men per day. These are men who do not want to use condom, or those who fall victim of Sandra's buttocks-wriggling tactics.

What a disturbing mindset Sandra has!!!!!!!!

Sandra's case is very disturbing but not shocking in the context of Nigeria. No one ever knows how they will react 100% faced with certain situations in life. But Sandra should do some soul searching and is she on a par with the evil men who violated her. I have often wondered the bizarre way some women behave and group ALL MEN together just because of the bad deeds of some. We can only pray for people like Sandra to seek redemption. Life is difficult for most Nigerians but playing the victim and acting in EVIL and IRRESPONSIBILE WAYS is not the fault of Politicians. We all have to take responsibility for our actions. Nothing shocks me about Nigeria or Nigerians now. WHAT A MORALLY BANKRUPT COUNTRY!!!! GOD HELP US

@aguabata

We need to see and hear more stories like this. The problem with MOST Nigerians is that they shy away from the truth and pretend like all is well!!! Then on a daily basis "WE" wonder and bemoan why we are in perpetual darkeness.

irawad · Apr 20, 2009 , 03:16 AM

All i can say is two wrongs don't make a right. Having said that, it seems like Nigeria is a society where one has no place of recourse in case of tragedy and misfortune. Whatever happened with the NGOs that fight to create positive social impacts for women? I think women should unite and insist on justice and transparency from the government in all its facets. Women must not relent until positive changes begin to show in every area of life.

Harmonious · Apr 20, 2009 , 04:29 AM

I am not surprised at the reaction of one of our fellows condemning RA for speaking the truth. RA is not saying anything new. We have had a military head of state who died between the legs of foreign harlots! Time and Newsweek both reported it!

RA aptly portrays some of the problems we face in Nigeria. There is no justice and morals are sinking daily. Have we not had persons convicted for petty theft as governors? Do not be surprised if the young men who robbed and raped are members of a cult in a university. They may even graduate and become governors!

What do we do as a society? Well we can start by acting on those things within our control. Why do we still respect failed leaders? We see them in airports and bow to them. We have parties and invite them. We want to be seen with them. In fact we named a stadium in Kano after a head of state who was known to be a murder, thief and whore monger who was guided by satanic marabous. Why?

I have been in Abuja and a certain gap toothed superbly rich (without any known source) former ruler walked into a conference and he got a STANDING OVATION!

We have a high tolerance for injustice and we celebrate what should be condemned and what we celebrate grows in value. But what do I know, I am only an alakowe!

Bill Carson · Apr 20, 2009 , 05:26 AM

Dele Giwa would not have debated or write a rejoinder to such a storyline from a tabloid newspaper (Sun). It Is a sad Indictment of the gutter journalism now practiced In Nigeria that an unsubstantiated story Is accorded all this seriousness.

Sandra Is by all Indication a Secondary School graduate, It will be close to the realm of nil that she kept a diary of all the sexual escapade she had while prostituting to have come up with her high figure of four thousand clients. A simple check/clarification with medical experts should have Informed the reporter or Reuben Abati that Sandra sleeping with over 4500 men does not automatically equate to same number contracting HIV, as It is possible to have continues sexual contact without condom and still not be Infected.

While I may put the laughable figure of 1.2m deaths caused In a year by road accident as a typographical error by Reuben Abati’s typewriter, It Is unforgivable for him not to see the whole story as a figment of a bored or Lazy journalist Imagination, that woke up In the morning and decided to give his core readers In Beer Parlour joints thought for the week.

Reuben Abati should tell us If he Is still a serious Journalist or If he has moved In to the world of tabloid journalism? There Is always the choice of sabbatical leave to refresh from what ever confidence battering experience one may have gone through and come back stronger than help give credence to zero truth story from a tabloid reporter.

chiagozie · Apr 20, 2009 , 08:13 AM

That figure is not in any way true. one would wonder how they came up with it. true a whole lot of people die on Nigerian roads daily as a result of bad roads much more than the much derided dangerous driving, but the number is not that massive. as for Abati's story, HIV is a part of our culture now and any piece on it is welcome. thats all.

iamgod · Apr 20, 2009 , 01:02 PM

Originally Posted by Bill Carson

Dele Giwa would not have debated or write a rejoinder to such a storyline from a tabloid newspaper (Sun). It Is a sad Indictment of the gutter journalism now practiced In Nigeria that an unsubstantiated story Is accorded all this seriousness.

Sandra Is by all Indication a Secondary School graduate, It will be close to the realm of nil that she kept a diary of all the sexual escapade she had while prostituting to have come up with her high figure of four thousand clients. A simple check/clarification with medical experts should have Informed the reporter or Reuben Abati that Sandra sleeping with over 4500 men does not automatically equate to same number contracting HIV, as It is possible to have continues sexual contact without condom and still not be Infected.

While I may put the laughable figure of 1.2m deaths caused In a year by road accident as a typographical error by Reuben Abati’s typewriter, It Is unforgivable for him not to see the whole story as a figment of a bored or Lazy journalist Imagination, that woke up In the morning and decided to give his core readers In Beer Parlour joints thought for the week.

Reuben Abati should tell us If he Is still a serious Journalist or If he has moved In to the world of tabloid journalism? There Is always the choice of sabbatical leave to refresh from what ever confidence battering experience one may have gone through and come back stronger than help give credence to zero truth story from a tabloid reporter.

Thank you Sir!!! I didnt believe a word of the f@#**_ing story myself, Moreso when it comes from a rag like Sunnews.

nijalaw · Apr 20, 2009 , 02:38 PM

Originally Posted by iamgod

Thank you Sir!!! I didnt believe a word of the f@#**_ing story myself, Moreso when it comes from a rag like Sunnews.

You can give me a free lifetime subscription of the Sun & I would not give it any time of the day. It's only pervs & voyeurs who are attracted to the smut & gore peddled by that rag sheet.