Innate Polygamist Crosses Sexual Harassment

INNATE POLYGAMY CROSSES SEXUAL HARASSMENT

Farouk Martins Aresa

Sexual harassment has exposed the hypocrisy of naturally born polygamists in the world of monogamists. They cannot keep their hands off ladies other countries usually take full legal responsibility for as wives. If the hypocrites have their way, the whole world will be full of deceitful serial monogamists, destroying cultures, women and families.

The last we checked, polygamy is still practiced by majority of people worldwide but less so amongst younger people. As some men get older and wealthier, desire for younger ladies creeps in, seeking more girlfriends or wives. The same is true of women polyandry as they become powerful and independent. However, lurking in the shadow is the risk of sexual harassment by those power drunk bosses, politicians, businessmen, Emir or Oba.

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Since Clinton’s - because I can - those held in trust without questions; lustful disposition is falling apart. In those days, when an Oba “stepped” on a lady he liked, passing by, she was his. So if a lady wanted to get the attention of an Oba, she could. But today, she can flirt with him and still say no, just as anyone else. He may be the rich and powerful of any status. Few younger men or women would go for poor old folks just for the fun of it.

Sure, some highly placed people may get shafted but we must err on the side of those young ladies so that they are not taken advantage of, before they can attain a career. More restrain and control is expected from matured people.

Some studies suggest women cheat equally by hedonistic pursuit of happiness. Plastic surgery and better financial stability made the difference. Women without children or whose children have grown out of sight are accommodating more men just as older men are courting younger women. The fear that old women anatomy is not constructed to oblige younger men’s libido may have to be reassessed in view of V-reconstruction.

A friend warned that she would not be responsible for a new kid after hearing some rumbling in the guest room when the dad and mum were on a visit. She could not believe her parents were still doing it. They couldn’t wait until they got back home?

It is also true that some of the older men and women, spurred by confidence of wealth, status or in some cases fat pension go to places where their money can stretch far. Poor or ambitious young men and women may be available but at a higher price or blackmail. While the older folks may be looking for a partner for the rest of their lives, the younger people may be looking for fast money to inherit so that they could start a new life.

Since the bloody fights between older men and younger women, especially in United States, there seems to be a period of calm. One of the most important factors is that the older men felt their investment into a new family hardly paid off. If a man or a woman cannot invest in his or her new family, there is no better investment. As the numbers of men coming back home to marry has trickled, it is too early to condemn Oba as vulture.

Older folks live longer these days and sometimes do not know what to do with the rest of their time. Some may take on a new career, hobby or even go back to school. Some get drugged for libido to come alive. After retirement, some older adults reenter the workforce or go for a second career. They dye their hair and change their looks to be more attractive and may turn into tigers and cougars at a higher proportion than ever.

There are public health issues here, as disfigurement. We had the wife of a head of state and the mother of Kanye that died from plastic surgery. Some older folks suffered loss of partners or get divorced, still sexually apt. Many find partners in the same situation. It must be admitted that there are not many dating services for the seniors. So, the very active ones meet some younger men or women. Others are just addicted philanderer.

The chasing and capturing may be more fun for the older folks than the action itself. Both older men and women are limited by their age to less stress during intercourse. Yet most men never listen and end up dead on top of their younger partner. The rational is that, it is a better way to go than on top of some undesirable partner. We hardly hear about a younger man dying on top an older woman. Polyandry acts are more natural?

The society may therefore need recreational activities, apart from adult daycare, within the comfort of the elderly. Indeed, businesses springing up such as disco clubs, jazz clubs and elderly entertainment may be as useful as seniors’ daycare and nursing homes since they cannot have babies. Some societies have barred wealthy men from acting boorish behind Men’s Only Club. Though exalted, Obi is as susceptible as others to opportunists.

Everybody is not a gold digger as there are many happily married couples in spite of the age differences. There is the saying that – I would rather be the darling of an old man than “whatever” of a young man. Older women relationships with younger men do not usually last as long in spite of all the scientific discoveries made to keep them younger. Plastic surgery can be expensive for a limited time than genital reconstruction benefit.

Indeed, a healthy relationship can develop between the old and young without sexual relationship but of very little benefit to the partner that may want a new family or for the younger partner to start a family. Older women seeking those types of relationships have always insisted that sex is not just for procreation, a younger guy may disagree. The danger is there that in spite of replenished lubrication, he may tear it up. Eh!

In any case, the excitement of looking forward to sex has introduced a new behavior to the relationship of men and women in their later years as part of living longer. Longer life has brought the advantages and disadvantages of filling it up with excitement to be relevant to younger people. Advance age also mean we have to be able to live on what is saved and invested before the age of forty. But young men and women spend faster.

Older men going to old countries in Europe, Asia and Africa to live in paradise or marry younger brides has backfired because of increasing violence and some irreconcilable differences between each partner’s expectations. Those older women coming from Europe and America have been able to hook up with their toy boys in Africa and Asia as well, even for the purpose of regularizing their immigration papers.



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Re: Innate Polygamist Crosses Sexual Harassment
M. Akosa posted on 08-11-2012, 10:29:14 AM
Sir,

I think you are really prejudiced and very biased in this article.

You should know that any man or woman who goes out of their way to invest (financial or emotional) in a marriage with someone outside their social class, age group or comfort zone is really playing a 50/50 game. Which they should be fully aware or consenting to what ever loss that comes their way.
If an older man decided to go marry a much younger woman and then sooner or later ends up scorned, rejected physically and unable to socialise or fit into the activities of their trophy wife or young bride, then good for them ! It is their loss and they have learnt by trying.

Another bias you have up there is the assertion that vagina can explode if an older woman is with a satisfying younger man. Sorry, there is no record anywhere or whatsoever that the vagina explodes out of a non abusive, consensual intimate acts between an older woman or maybe post menopause woman and a younger hot very, sexy man.

To each and his/her own !

Polygamist are not committing any crime in a society that tolerates and allows them. And there is a big difference between a divorced person remarrying and the word polygamy or polyandry. The big ignorance here that most Nigerians expose is when they see a widowed person or divorced man or woman remarry, then they assume and say that it is polygamy.
Out of choice, most people still like to maintain cordial, friendly, respectful or mutual relationship with their exes. And that is by no means polygamy. And formerly divorced couples also can get back together and remarry or cohabit again if they wish to. There is also nothing wrong with that.

There is no need to demonize people out of their personal choices, for which they themselves alone knows what it their needs and what will best fulfill or enhance the quality of their life and protect their best interests.
Most people today would not be alive if they were not brave enough to quit a bad marriage, remarry and move on. Or if they did not make decisive changes in their intimate personal life. They would have been exposed to harm or even worse dead, if they have remained in a previous intimate relationship and play "nice" for people with your type of mindest to like them and not call them "polygamist"
Re: Innate Polygamist Crosses Sexual Harassment
First-lady posted on 08-11-2012, 11:05:34 AM
I don't even know how you came round to make a response to this article @ makosa
The title "innate polygamist ...."gives an impression that a particular person is being discussed ok maybe that was a mistake
But then the content could not have been
You open it and it smelled like a 9 day old porridge
I kept struggling to find the meat in the story but there was none
Not even biscuit bone to suck on
I find it a very disjointed,uncoordinated,poorly thought out jambalaya of several ideas all in one article as though competing for gold in "the most irritating" category
Every paragraph was a different discussion removed from the one preceding it and worst still within the same paragraph are random sentences that have no bearing to the theme of the paragraph
A hot mess IMHO
If it was a paper and I was grading it,I would give it a capital F and sleep well at night.
Tufia

Or then again it could just be my TTC education rearing it's ugly head
Re: Innate Polygamist Crosses Sexual Harassment
Magic posted on 08-11-2012, 12:04:55 PM
M.Akosa,

I agree with you that the writer is bias as a man, but what do you expect? The only way he could be objective is to go the other way, it is not enough even if he tried to be balanced. I must say though that you have been consistent with your defense of young ladies getting married to older men. So you are not that unbiased either.

However, marriage is not a 50/50 gamble as it is reduced to. It used to be for life. If any man decides to go into it, he should with all his investment. A 50/50 chance will reduce it to a gamble and therefore, a contract with a younger woman would be proper with his eyes open. As for menopause woman desiring a younger man, there is "explode" as you put it and there is "explode". May be what she needs is a gentle touch for natural lubrication or baby oil for - gbam, thank you madam.

Anyway, relationships between young and old is still possible without one exploiting the other. There is a great deal to learn on both sides, that is why the maiming has stopped. We have not heard of any for a while.

F.L,

Your beef with this writer is well known. Unfortunately both of you are not at the same level, that your nose is far from your eyes by local dialect.
Re: Innate Polygamist Crosses Sexual Harassment
M. Akosa posted on 08-11-2012, 12:38:54 PM
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I don't even know how you came round to make a response to this article @ makosa
The title \"innate polygamist ....\"gives an impression that a particular person is being discussed ok maybe that was a mistake
But then the content could not have been
You open it and it smelled like a 9 day old porridge
I kept struggling to find the meat in the story but there was none
Not even biscuit bone to suck on
I find it a very disjointed,uncoordinated,poorly thought out jambalaya of several ideas all in one article as though competing for gold in \"the most irritating\" category
Every paragraph was a different discussion removed from the one preceding it and worst still within the same paragraph are random sentences that have no bearing to the theme of the paragraph
A hot mess IMHO
If it was a paper and I was grading it,I would give it a capital F and sleep well at night.
Tufia

Or then again it could just be my TTC education rearing it's ugly head


My dear,

Usually I don't waste my time to engage with this type of articles. I just felt that I should let him know what an incoherent ramble and very dangerous ignorant thing he has wriiten up there. It just doesn't make any sense at all and he is so much heavily prejudiced and I believe he doesn't even know or understand the meaning of polygamy. Although he may claim not be an illiterate, retarded person or someone not well informed on what he is talking about.

And you can not just link polygamy to sexual harrassment ??? based only on the fact that they share their lives with multiple partners both legal or ( unmarried) illegitimate. What is that ?
Polygamists usually also do like to seek out or invest their interest in like minded individual or person who won't mind sharing them with another partner or least make it known to their potential spouse before any commitment that there is also someone else or others involved here.

What an utter nonsense and a very heavy prejudice !
Re: Innate Polygamist Crosses Sexual Harassment
2plus2 posted on 08-11-2012, 12:47:52 PM
Yeah, tried reading this. Really weird article. REally strange seems like it may have been aimed at someone on the site. You can never tell. My view though is simple, consenting adults over 18 years can make their choices and decisions. Unfortunately, poverty often times has a helping hand in facilitating any choice or decision they make.

My two olympic pennies worth.
Re: Innate Polygamist Crosses Sexual Harassment
Magic posted on 08-11-2012, 13:03:16 PM
I must say I really enjoyed the comprehensive approach of the article. The continuous attempt to ridicule polygamy and lately to ridicule some traditional leaders may be the target of the article rather than someone in particular. Since the Deji Of Akure made a fool of himself, attempts have been made on others. Copycats. Funny, when the common man or a rich lady is duped by the young things, nobody paid attention. But when President was exposed for political gain, liberals came to his defense. No matter how much one hates DSK, some came to his defense. It is even worse for rich women because nobody would come to their defense.
Re: [Articles] Innate Polygamist Crosses Sexual Harassment
HolyPagan posted on 08-11-2012, 14:03:58 PM
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INNATE POLYGAMY CROSSES SEXUAL HARASSMENT

Farouk Martins Aresa

Sexual harassment has exposed the hypocrisy of naturally born polygamists in the world of monogamists. They cannot keep their hands off ladies other countries usually take full legal responsibility for as wives. If the hypocrites have their way, the whole world will be full of deceitful serial monogamists, destroying cultures, women and families.

Na lie, even with a plethora of wives at home, in places where polygamy is allowed, these lechers are like [COLOR=\\"#FF0000\\"]erections on steriod
...they think any and every woman is fair game, because, according to their warped logic...Their mindset is something along the lines of....\"afterall I can marry her, I have several of her type in my house\"

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The last we checked, polygamy is still practiced by majority of people worldwide but less so amongst younger people. As some men get older and wealthier, desire for younger ladies creeps in, seeking more girlfriends or wives. The same is true of women polyandry as they become powerful and independent. However, lurking in the shadow is the risk of sexual harassment by those power drunk bosses, politicians, businessmen, Emir or Oba.
Whaaaaaaaa.....
I failed to get the point you're trying to make here Sir
Please understand first of all that, sexual harrasment is completely different from, expressing the desire to acquire more chattel....sorry!!! wives...sexual harrasment is usually within the context of inappropriate and or unwanted sexual advances, usually, but not exclusive to a work place setting,
Most importantly sexual harrasment involves using sexual coercion, to display power disparity, at the expense of the victim.
How does that equate to acquiring more spouses by anybody?

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Since Clinton's - because I can - those held in trust without questions; lustful disposition is falling apart. In those days, when an Oba \\"stepped\\" on a lady he liked, passing by, she was his. So if a lady wanted to get the attention of an Oba, she could. But today, she can flirt with him and still say no, just as anyone else. He may be the rich and powerful of any status. Few younger men or women would go for poor old folks just for the fun of itSure, some highly placed people may get shafted but we must err on the side of those young ladies so that they are not taken advantage of, before they can attain a career. More restrain and control is expected from matured people.

When we were kids, if somebody strolls off topic, during a discussion, we would screech 'OP' (meaning off topic), with as much derision as we could muster.
Unfortunately there is no nexus, between the above segment of your post, and the earlier segments...Exactly what has [COLOR=\"#000000\"]
'May to December' relationships got to do with sexual harrasment/polygamy/power/nostalgia about olden days?

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Some studies suggest women cheat equally by hedonistic pursuit of happiness. Plastic surgery and better financial stability made the difference. Women without children or whose children have grown out of sight are accommodating more men just as older men are courting younger women. The fear that old women anatomy is not constructed to oblige younger men's libido may have to be reassessed in view of V-reconstruction
So you are deafeating your earlier argument then. Surely women who choose to take on serial relationships, do not have the historical norm of taking the men as a number whatever husband, Oh by the way, a vagina does not wear out...as they say in lasgidi...'toto no get meter' so one does not need any type of reconstruction to engage in and enjoy an active sex life at whatever age.
back to topic, I fail to see what point you are trying to make. According to your earlier position, polygamy was a bridge between a laissez faire attitude to wife taking, and present day accusations of sexual harrasment.

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A friend warned that she would not be responsible for a new kid after hearing some rumbling in the guest room when the dad and mum were on a visit. She could not believe her parents were still doing it. They couldn't wait until they got back home?
What has silver shaggers got to do with the price of a basket of rotten tomatoes at mile12 market?

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It is also true that some of the older men and women, spurred by confidence of wealth, status or in some cases fat pension go to places where their money can stretch far. Poor or ambitious young men and women may be available but at a higher price or blackmail. While the older folks may be looking for a partner for the rest of their lives, the younger people may be looking for fast money to inherit so that they could start a new life.

hehehe....like they say in commerce..buyer beware, As any adult knows, marriage is one of those high stakes social contract, where their is no legislative framework or provision for Uberrimae Fidei...You have to take people at face value...hence the need for due dilligence.
As we well know, marriage at the best of times, is what my people call 'ahia ngwugwu' ie. 'goody bag' shopping'..Only when you unwrap the package, do you know exactly what you brought home. Then factor in the dynamics of a 'may-to-december' liaison, and it becomes a perfect storm.

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Since the bloody fights between older men and younger women, especially in United States, there seems to be a period of calm. One of the most important factors is that the older men felt their investment into a new family hardly paid off. If a man or a woman cannot invest in his or her new family, there is no better investment. As the numbers of men coming back home to marry has trickled, it is too early to condemn Oba as vulture.

Have you been monitoring?
Have you been taking stats?
gosh this is such a vacuous statment..how inane.

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Older folks live longer these days and sometimes do not know what to do with the rest of their time. Some may take on a new career, hobby or even go back to school. Some get drugged for libido to come alive. After retirement, some older adults reenter the workforce or go for a second career. They dye their hair and change their looks to be more attractive and may turn into tigers and cougars at a higher proportion than ever.

There are public health issues here, as disfigurement. We had the wife of a head of state and the mother of Kanye that died from plastic surgery. Some older folks suffered loss of partners or get divorced, still sexually apt. Many find partners in the same situation. It must be admitted that there are not many dating services for the seniors. So, the very active ones meet some younger men or women. Others are just addicted philanderer.

The chasing and capturing may be more fun for the older folks than the action itself. Both older men and women are limited by their age to less stress during intercourse. Yet most men never listen and end up dead on top of their younger partner. The rational is that, it is a better way to go than on top of some undesirable partner. We hardly hear about a younger man dying on top an older woman. Polyandry acts are more natural?

What has this got to do with polygamy Vs Sexual harrasment?
Or are you on an unrelated frolick?

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The society may therefore need recreational activities, apart from adult daycare, within the comfort of the elderly. Indeed, businesses springing up such as disco clubs, jazz clubs and elderly entertainment may be as useful as seniors' daycare and nursing homes since they cannot have babies. Some societies have barred wealthy men from acting boorish behind Men's Only Club. Though exalted, Obi is as susceptible as others to opportunists.

Everybody is not a gold digger as there are many happily married couples in spite of the age differences. There is the saying that - I would rather be the darling of an old man than \"whatever\" of a young man. Older women relationships with younger men do not usually last as long in spite of all the scientific discoveries made to keep them younger. Plastic surgery can be expensive for a limited time than genital reconstruction benefit.

Indeed, a healthy relationship can develop between the old and young without sexual relationship but of very little benefit to the partner that may want a new family or for the younger partner to start a family. Older women seeking those types of relationships have always insisted that sex is not just for procreation, a younger guy may disagree. The danger is there that in spite of replenished lubrication, he may tear it up. Eh!

In any case, the excitement of looking forward to sex has introduced a new behavior to the relationship of men and women in their later years as part of living longer. Longer life has brought the advantages and disadvantages of filling it up with excitement to be relevant to younger people. Advance age also mean we have to be able to live on what is saved and invested before the age of forty. But young men and women spend faster.

Older men going to old countries in Europe, Asia and Africa to live in paradise or marry younger brides has backfired because of increasing violence and some irreconcilable differences between each partner's expectations. Those older women coming from Europe and America have been able to hook up with their toy boys in Africa and Asia as well, even for the purpose of regularizing their immigration papers.

See as your "article" Skidded to the wrong side of the road.....then careened off the road at top speed, and and finally came to rest upside down, having first hit a tree...what a yawn.
Re: Innate Polygamist Crosses Sexual Harassment
Magic posted on 08-11-2012, 17:20:23 PM
HP,

I agree with you that there are many facets to this article but unlike you, I think they are related. Living longer is having more fun and part of flirting with opposite sex. Actually, what is life without flirting with opposite sex? The younger ones too for Pete's sake.The problem is, it can be very dear. Since I can easily identify with the article, let me maket a few points.

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HP Na lie, even with a plethora of wives at home, in places where polygamy is allowed, these lechers are like erections on steriod...they think any and every woman is fair game, because, according to their warped logic...Their mindset is something along the lines of....\"afterall I can marry her, I have several of her type in my house\"


You just revealed your real bone. Those of us that cannot afford to be polygamist now look forward to it. As good as you usually are, you missed the most important point here. Sexual harassment is not confined to only workplace. You may need a refresher course on sexual harassment. Criminal sexual harassment is even worse. Both can invade households and "date rape". The distinction is very slim and one can spill into another.

I also think what you consider contradictions in the article is what is expected of a good writer. He laid down both pros and cons but then we know where his bias is. A good lawyer and many objective writers are taught to point out opposite views before their opponents do. They are also taught to let the reader decide which of the views to accept. So you may have fallen for the writer.

As for sexual Harassment- criminal harassment - older oppressors - power play - younger, if you do not see the connection, others do. You need to know that if sexual relations go well, it leads to acquiring more spouse, if it does not go well, it could lead to criminal or civil harassment depending on the pay off. Even the ones that went well, may go south.

By the way men got more cautious about exploiting young women. Asia is heavily policed now, African women taught their suitors lessons in Europe and America, so police report as part of stat is down from a few years ago. If you think living older and wealthier have nothing to do with flaunting to the younger ones, you missed a big point here.
Re: Innate Polygamist Crosses Sexual Harassment
HolyPagan posted on 08-12-2012, 06:02:52 AM
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HP,
[/COLOR]You just revealed your real bone. Those of us that cannot afford to be polygamist now look forward to it. As good as you usually are, you missed the most important point here. Sexual harassment is not confined to only workplace. You may need a refresher course on sexual harassment. Criminal sexual harassment is even worse. Both can invade households and \\"date rape\\". The distinction is very slim and one can spill into another.
..................................................................................................................................................................................................................................As for sexual Harassment- criminal harassment - older oppressors - power play - younger, if you do not see the connection, others do. You need to know that if sexual relations go well, it leads to acquiring more spouse, if it does not go well, it could lead to criminal or civil harassment depending on the pay off. Even the ones that went well, may go south.

By the way men got more cautious about exploiting young women. Asia is heavily policed now, African women taught their suitors lessons in Europe and America, so police report as part of stat is down from a few years ago. If you think living older and wealthier have nothing to do with flaunting to the younger ones, you missed a big point here.


Looks like you may have missed where I said
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Please understand first of all that, sexual harrasment is completely different from, expressing the desire to acquire more chattel....sorry!!! wives...sexual harrasment is usually within the context of inappropriate and or unwanted sexual advances, usually, [COLOR=\\"#FF0000\\"]but not exclusive to a work place setting, Most importantly sexual harrasment involves using sexual coercion, to display power disparity, at the expense of the victim.
How does that equate to acquiring more spouses by anybody?


I find your take here curious...
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As for sexual Harassment- criminal harassment - older oppressors - power play - younger, if you do not see the connection, others do. You need to know that if sexual relations go well, it leads to acquiring more spouse, if it does not go well, it could lead to criminal or civil harassment depending on the pay off. Even the ones that went well, may go south.

There is no civil sexual harrasment or criminal sexual harrasment.
What we have are issues that may fall within the purview of civil or criminal law.
The law is clear on what constitues sexual assault. It does not use the term sexual harrasment in place of the term sexual assault.
Criminal statute is clear on what constitutes the crime of sexual assault and sets it out in a congent, convincing manner, and in no place or setting does it refer to sexual assault of any form, as sexual harrasment....Just thought to make that clear.

As for your wish re:sexual harrasment leading to God knows what...there was a time, a woman was coerced into marrying the man who rapes her, as restitution for rape. Surely because it happened in the past does not make it right...does it?
My point is, a lot of things happened when people knew no better. Now that society as a whole has evolved and become more aware of right and wrong, such practices are no longer condoned.
Re: Innate Polygamist Crosses Sexual Harassment
Magic posted on 08-12-2012, 08:03:34 AM
HP,

You are still making a clean clear distinction where there are fine lines. Check out civil and criminal harassment and no contact order. It all depends on the genuine and in some cases irrational fear of women. In the few cases, it destroys men or with a number on their heads preventing them from finding good jobs.

However, you have conveniently ignored women's
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erections on steriod.
with multiple partners.

I think the author also ignored other factors ( which may confuse others more). Mainly religion as in Mormon Church when they cross the line into criminal or civil harassment. One more, you made some solid defense of Catholic priests in Nigeria some years ago that abuse of young boys and young women never happened in Nigeria until many from the areas you indicated came and proved you wrong on this. These were what the writer called "innate polygamists" on the prowl without a silence. They are the same people that condemned Africans for their polygamy. There are other factors the writer did not touch, but these will suffice.

Let me end by agreeing with you that young women suffered in silence for years until now. That backs up the writer's stats that abuse has gone down.
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