21 Feb 2007 |
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Admin Note: This work of fiction is based on actual events I want to respond to those people who responded to my story which I called “Is Your Wife's Baby Yours and Does it Matter?” When I sent my story to the Nigeria Village Square I did not expect everybody to be laughing at me. I was shocked. If only two or three or even six people had laughed I would not mind. But the whole village square seems to be shaking, clapping, and doing high fives and break dancing on my grave. Is this the way a man should be treated after confessing that he has been deceived by his wife? In that story I told everybody that my birthday was February 20 which was the same date the story was published. Now that I am writing this follow up reply almost 40 people have posted their reactions to my story but not even one person wrote happy birthday. But another birthday person who posted his own story the same day I posted mine received 15 happy birthday messages. If I complain now I will be called a sissy girlie man. All the months that I have been visiting Nigeria Village Square {mosgoogle right}I have not seen people laugh at a Nigerian brother or sister like people were laughing at me after reading my story. Even my best friend TTB who logged on to the village square and read all the responses is laughing as if I am a joke. Make una dey laugh. In my story I wrote that it was my wife who asked me to stay at home. People just decided to ignore that information and started to make jokes that I am a lazy man who is taking advantage of my wife. The cost of daycare is the number one reason I agreed to stay home. Any person who has a child in America knows the cost of daycare is huge and you go to work and pay all your money to the daycare. At the same time it is strangers at daycare that are raising your child instead of the child’s parents. These are the reasons my wife asked me to stay at home and raise the child and also save on the daycare costs and I agreed. In my story I wrote that I used to be a security guard. Everybody seems to forget that I wrote that I was the person who worked and paid my wife’s school fees doing security guard at night. At that time I drove a taxi in the morning before I was involved in an accident that stopped me from driving. Why is everybody now laughing and yabbing me here. The other people I know whose wives studied nursing made their wives go to work and go to school at the same time. One person who responded to my story advised me to commit suicide. Sorry, I will not. My life is not that bad. As I told everybody I am happy except the constant suspicion that has now taken over my head and body whenever my wife goes to overnight work at the hospital. That was why I wrote that story to see if I could advise other people to be careful not to do what I did. I am not suicidal. If you ask me, I am happier than many husbands I know who don’t even have any problem similar to my own. Many people who saw my story on the village square called me lazy, a joke, a loafer, a sorry ass, a comic, and one person wrote for me to “awake your goddamned-despicable-idle-lazy-ASS and get a life.” What these people forget is that in my story I told them that I had been abused like that already. I have been abused already by family and friends. Maybe that is funny to them but I am not worried about insults and abuse anymore. I took the risk of writing my story even though someone who knows my wife and me may read it and tell her. People did not give me credit for this risk. Go ahead and laugh. One or two people who responded to my story wrote that if I were a woman no one will be laughing. This is true but I am not blaming women or those who sympathize with them. I am not looking for sympathy. If you read my story again you will notice that I did not ask for sympathy. I wrote to warn people who may be in my situation to avoid going for a DNA test of their child unless they are trying to avoid child support. People forgot this and focused on me as a stay at home lazy husband. Some people suggested that I should have another baby. That one made me laugh. Another baby? I should have a baby first before I can have another. I will leave this one alone because I am now beginning to think that I should go and get a fertility test to see if I have a problem making babies. I will leave this alone before I get into another mistake. I liked the very few people who gave me credit. One person wrote that I am a trailblazer and another wrote that I should “dump her ass & find a good woman”. To these and those who wrote similar nice things, thank you but I am staying with my wife. As long as she is paying the bills, I will be stupid to leave her or even leave the house. This is my investment. For those who are still laughing, laugh on. I will continue to be a stay at home husband as long as my wife continues to work at the hospital and pay all the bills. Those who are advising me to get off my ass and go to work forget what our mothers, wives, and feminists have been saying for many years that a housewife is always at work. You can change the housewife part to househusband and get the same result. I am already at work in the house. I don’t care. Laugh.
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