Have you ever had a phone conversation with a man you have never met, but whose voice you find irresistible? Even when he says a word as simple as “Hmm,” (which technically isn’t even a word), you simply cannot get enough of it. Everything about his voice is fascinating. You cannot quite place your finger on it, but you know that you do not mind hearing his voice right before you sleep and hearing it again as soon as you wake up. His voice is just … just so entrancing. Have you ever had a man with that kind of voice talk to you? I have.

Is it not simply amazing when you see a man who is as fine as fine could ever get? White dentures, no bournvita stains. He has that Colgate smile. His hair is cut low and neat like a military man. He looks darn good, and he knows it too. Everyday you see him, he looks like he is wearing his best outfit. He looks so good that you have sometimes forgotten yourself in the process of watching him. Everything about him betrays his opulence. My God, he is scrumptious. He walks the walk, but does he talk the talk? Certainly, a man like this must have that captivating voice, right? Eager to know, you approach him and strike a casual conversation with him. You say – more like ask, “It’s a beautiful day, isn’t it?”

He looks at you, smiles that expensive smile, and says, “Oh yes, it’s a beaurriful day.” Not wanting to believe you heard what you just heard, you ask him, “What did you say?” With confidence and a million dollar smile, he repeats, “I said it’s a beaurriful day.” But how could such an epitome of visual perfection pronounce beautiful as beaurriful? Surely, it must not have been him. Unfortunately, it was indeed him. Apparently, a person’s looks can be poles apart from the words that exit his mouth. Not wanting to believe he is as dumb as he sounds, you continue the conversation, hoping it will get better.

Did he just ask you if you are Yoruba or Igbo after you told him you are from Ondo State? Yes.

Did he just ask you if you were born in London or in UK? Yes.

Did he just tell you he needs a glass of ‘warer?’ Yes.

And yes, he just said the humidity is hot.

Do not tell me I am the only one who has experienced this.

It feels a lot better when you see a guy who is forgettable. He looks like an average Joe, nothing special. But the moment he opens his mouth, you need not wonder just how high his IQ is. He speaks English like he invented the language. Who knew that English could make you feel all girly inside? He makes you feel like enrolling in English 101 again. Who cares if you are a grad student?

When the case is reversed and you see a good-looking man who looks like he just stepped out of the cover of a GQ magazine, the last thing you want is for him to sound like an Onitsha trader, throwing in at least one ‘nna men’ in every statement he makes. You cannot help but wonder how such a man got into such clothes. It is a mystery, I know.

Of course, this problem does not discriminate against any gender. Men are just as susceptible to having the shocker of their lives. As a man, you may see a woman whom you swear is Halle Berry’s twin. Her hair is beautiful. Her skin is flawless; she looks like Mac used her face to create ‘pancake’ for women. She’s got the high cheek bones, the hypnotizing eyes, the small waist, big hips, powerful ass, and of course, kissable lips and touchable tits (excuse my French, but I needed to rhyme).

So you take her along with you as your date to your ex’s wedding. You need to show your ex that you have moved on, and are now with someone more beautiful. You are now with someone who beats her hands down. In the reception hall, women stare at your date; men gawk at her. In fact, you could swear you saw your ex, the bride, rolling her eyes at her. Amongst the other women, your date looks like a rose in a field of green grass. Men seem to be quietly begging you to tell them the koko – how did you win this chic over? You are the man. She’s perfect. You’re perfect. Life is perfect. You smile the smile of a confident, self-assured man. Only winners can smile that type of smile. And you are a winner, right?

Dinner comes along. Your mouth drops open and hangs open for an uncalculated amount of time. 

Is that your date licking – more like sucking - the egwusi soup off her fingers? Yes.

Is she doing it with all the sound effects too? Yes.

Is that your ex, the bride laughing at your date? Yes.

Did she just stain your white tuxedo shirt with soup? Yes.

Is she chewing (and sucking) that meatless bone? Yes.

Did she just hit the bone on the ceramic plate to force out everything inside the bone? Yes.

In public? Yes.

Are all eyes on you? Oh, yessss.

Thus goes the cycle of life: everyone is missing something. The good-looking man and sharp dresser does not have the voice. The man with the voice looks like a village headmaster. What is a girl to do? Of course, there is always that guy who has both the looks and the voice, but he has no words. He’s a beautiful man with a beautiful voice and ugly words. Well, the words themselves are not ugly; it is the sound of them that is ugly.

Have you ever heard a sexy, baritone voice that sounds like he just erupted from the village square? He’s got the voice, but no words. What a waste! Even when he is speaking English, he still sounds like he is speaking Yoruba. All the words that start with ‘h’ (like house, horse, etc) have somehow managed to exit his mouth without the ‘h,’ so they now sound like ‘ouse’ and ‘orse’. Instead, he has decided to put the ‘h’ in front of every word that starts with a vowel. He pronounces ‘earring’ as ‘hearring,’ which now makes it sound like ‘hearing.’ As you can imagine, this can complicate things tremendously, especially for those whot are not aware of what is going on. It is fair to say that the ‘h’ has been lost in transition. The Igbo ones, on the other hand, are very good at changing the pronunciation and syllables of words. ‘Make’ is often pronounced as ‘mek,’ and ‘did’ is often pronounced as ‘didi.’ 

Countless disappointments have thought me to expect nothing. Not having any expectation means not having to deal with any disappointment that is likely to follow through. I should say, however that I would rather hear a beautiful voice and be disappointed by the look than see a beautiful man and be disappointed by his voice. Somehow, it is easier to get over the look. As people begin to grow on you, they begin to look good. And it makes a lot of sense because beauty is in the eye of the beholder. This explains why no one ever thinks that his or friend is not good-looking. But how does one begin to fall in love with a voice that is sure to send him/her to an early grave? Well, either an early grave or prison – for killing the owner of the annoying voice.

If you ask me, I would say this is just one of God’s many ways of being funny.  The man’s sense of humor is uncanny. I have never met anyone quite like Him. I maintain that He is the funniest Man ever. No one else in history has set a judgment date that everyone must attend, and yet refused to tell anyone the date. Simply amazing, I tell you.

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Robot  # 1 | 04.08.2008 06:59

Have you ever had a phone conversation with a man you have never met, but whose voice you find ir...Read the full article.

Dewdrops  # 2 | 04.08.2008 07:18

=Robot;4295079051>Have you ever had a phone conversation with a man you have never met, but whose voice you find ir...Read the full article. When you truly love and respect someone. . . . .nothing else matters. If the advantages outweigh the disadvantages, and the positives outweigh the negatives, no need to look any further. Even where love does not conquer all, tolerance, a high level of committment and simple common sense would let anyone know that a bird in hand is worth two in the bush, that Rome was not built in a day and also, the grass is certainly not green on the outside. No one is perfect or has ALL the qualities desired. Look for the good and humor in people while you work on the bad and intolerance in you. Meet half way and make the greatest of compliments. Work with what you have.:cool:

bababoyz  # 3 | 04.08.2008 13:54

The voice complements the looks, and the looks cannot be complete without the voice. Is that what I heard you say? Vera dear, you are really Verastic. Most people who called water –warrer and beautiful –beaurriful are people who came to USA right from their village, and have never stepped Lagos before their trip through MMA

Alexa  # 4 | 04.08.2008 15:05

Kai!!!I almost choked on my sandwich.The Egusi eating,finger-licking,bone-chewing gal cracked me up big time.Good one as always,Vera. I might be in this poles apart experience.Nice guy,fast mover,nice looks but speaks with the accent of an Onitsha/Aba trader and I've tried to be neutral on the voice but I just can't.I didn't know I was this superficial.Other guy,nice looking,nice accent but a slow mover(according to my timetable:D).Incidentally both live in the same city(I'm still trying to figure that one out)where I conveniently don't live:biggrin:. Hmmmm!What to do!

Dewdrops  # 5 | 04.08.2008 17:40

=Alexa;4295079254>Kai!!!I almost choked on my sandwich.The Egusi eating,finger-licking,bone-chewing gal cracked me up big time.Good one as always,Vera. I might be in this poles apart experience. Nice guy,fast mover,nice looks but speaks with the accent of an Onitsha/Aba trader and I've tried to be neutral on the voice but I just can't. I didn't know I was this superficial. Other guy,nice looking,nice accent but a slow mover(according to my timetable:D).Incidentally both live in the same city(I'm still trying to figure that one out)where I conveniently don't live:biggrin:. Hmmmm!What to do! I see you are still picking and choosing eh?:D Don't worry, your breasts are still standing where they should. In a couple of years you will be paying one of these same men with a "french" accent to take you to his village for introduction. If na one of our "Ameri-dudu" sistas now, they will gladly announce to their friends that the guy speaks with a "British" accent.:lol: Just you wait!!!!:D

bobokite  # 6 | 04.08.2008 17:44

Hahhahahahahhhaahahaahahhaahahaa lol! Vera u no go kill me here O! lol!

Ajanlekoko  # 7 | 04.08.2008 17:56

Looks like lovely Vera is writing straight from the heart. Must've been you. Years ago, met a girl with an undergrad. degree in History. Spoken and written English was a disaster. "Figure-wise" and "looks-wise", she was a dream come true. It didn't work because we grew up in different parts of the country and English is our only common language. I love your delivery though, powerful and satirical.

10Kobo  # 8 | 04.08.2008 19:30

Like dewdrops opined, you cant win it all but ....You can achieve it all, if you so desire and desire it so much. If l met a lady that "is as you put it", l will dedicate resources on her and by the time l am finished "polishing and fine-tuning" her, you can bet, l have it all. Some years back while doing my own Masters degree, l accidentally met a lady who just gained admission into a college of Education in Lagos. Some discussions with her told me she was not only brilliant, she was also intelligent and it made me wonder what "this one" is doing in a college of education? But then l realized, life is not easy when both your parents are deceased and relations are reluctant to step-in! A few years now, highest glory and honor to God and a little support from me, she is a University Economics graduate, ACCA chartered with a few "best student" awards in-between and a swell managerial position in one of Europe's leading Telecoms business......YES WE CAN, IF WE DESIRE IT ENOUGH! And best of all, she's repaid me with some wonderful kids!....and is my wife :D Shine mi-eye :D:D Lets not forget that even we ourselves, are far from being that "complete person" we hope others are! Though, the "beerrriful" and the "hey meeen, waaraa-sh*t meen" is nothing but posturing and impressionism :D :D Cheers, 10Kobo

pingoldfish  # 9 | 04.08.2008 22:43

well...that was powerful, Vera...but before I go into that, this 10kobo guy comes across with a very familiar personality. Sounds like Basorge. i've met quite a handful of those 'not very polished speech' ladiies with bodies to die for. how did i deal with them? straight like an arrow, but with the tip dipped in the creamist honey. i chose the best times to lay a correction out there, and rewarded a fine display with a kiss...and you know what. but nothing prepared me for the embarrassment i faced once at Legato (Victoria Island). It was Timi (Dakolo)'s birthday, and it was meant to be a surprise...So, I went with some friends and was beginning to enjoy myself when i got a call from a family friend, you know those kinds who jetted off to Europe (Germany mainly) straight after primary school and a few years of learning a trade or two at the Main Market (Onitsha) or spare parts market (Nnewi)...Well, this broda wanted to come meet me where I was, and even asked if, '...dia wia gyals dia?' I said, plenty. He knew I was friends with Omawunmi (before the Idols show), and he particularly wanted to meet her. The guy no fear, because money no be problem... Well, let me cut to where we sat at the bar upstairs and Omawunmi came over to say 'hi' to me. The moment I introduced my nna-friend to her, the guy got up swiftly, as if remote-controlled, and waved off the proferred handshake. The guy wanted a full body hug with everyone staring. Trust Omas, she shrunk back in disgust, and had my guy say, 'Wetin happin? Will I strangulet you?' My head could not descend lower in shame. Worse was still ahead. Omas could not hold herself back, she even mimicked the guy and I heard a few people laugh. It was so embarrassing. But here is a guy who wears designers', has plenty of cash and would spoil any girl silly. But his speech failed him. To redeem his image, he bought drinks for almost everyone around, but I believe the pot had been broken... Na so life be. We can't have it all. Afterall, one fine girl wen I bin dey like, as she just meet the guy, see say money plenty, she no call me again. Na dem two rock during christmas!

Alexa  # 10 | 04.08.2008 22:52

=Dewdrops;4295079317>I see you are still picking and choosing eh?:D Don't worry, your breasts are still standing where they should. In a couple of years you will be paying one of these same men with a "french" accent to take you to his village for introduction. If na one of our "Ameri-dudu" sistas now, they will gladly announce to their friends that the guy speaks with a "British" accent.:lol: Just you wait!!!!:D Chi m!!!!How did you see my breasts??:DDon't worry,I'm in the process of repenting from my superficiality-one of the reasons my head is still bowed.

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