Brothers Behaving Badly

Brothers Behaving Badly

By Uche Nworah

Our black sisters in the UK must still be fuming right now, particularly those from the Caribbean islands over this latest ‘affront', which is like a slap in their faces and a vote of no confidence on their beauty, womanly virtues, and on the other characteristics that brothers look for in women these days.

L-R Sol Campbell, Cheryl Tweedy, Ashley Cole & Fiona Barratt

Ashley Cole's marriage to Girls Aloud Singer (Cheryl Tweedy) is not surprising, it is consistent with the age old habit of successful black men in the UK, (and in America too I guess) abandoning sisters from their ‘hood, choosing instead to cross over the street and find their love matches amongst white chics. I'm sure some of these sisters, with their hairs tucked nicely under hair driers in Peckham's many beauty shops, the many others putting finishing touches to their nails, and the ones waxing their faces in the quest to enhance their appeal would be cursing and swearing at the same time, out of disgust and disappointment and thinking out aloud ‘damn, another one taken, what's with these brothers?'.

Such outbursts may not be surprising as black sisters would normally regard brothers like Ashley and his likes that prefer white chics to their black sisters as lost causes and tormented souls. This habit usually surfaces whenever the going gets good for the brothers, that is when they suddenly realise that their black sisters ‘goods' aren't good enough anymore.  

But do you really blame brothers like Ashley, and Sol Campbell, his friend and former Arsenal team mate who also had his current white girlfriend (interior designer Fiona Barratt) in tow at the Ashley Cole wedding. This despite his previous weird experiences from his off-and-on liaisons with 44 year-old celebrity interior designer (Kelly Hoppen) which ruined his 2005/2006 football season and almost cost him his football career. And speaking about Sol Campbell, what is it about him and interior decorators? Oh! Plus older women. Weird isn't it?

And what is it about white chics that lure successful brothers like them away, so much so as to make them forget about all the bootylicious endowments and soul food skills of our black sisters?

Could this be as a result of low self-esteem or inferiority complex on the part of these brothers, a situation where they begin to see the white chics as their passports and tickets to breaking into the traditional and ultra conservative English society, and party circuits, or is it just that the white girls ‘do it' better than our black sisters?

This is really worrying because it is our black sisters that should be crawling those Soho night clubs and raiding those West end boutiques as footballers' wives (WAGs), and deservedly too, not these white chics that would use our brothers and eventually dump them when the going gets tough.

Maybe these brothers should speak to Frank Bruno first before getting in on the act of crossing over. The former heavyweight champion probably is still suffering from the stress of separating from his ex-wife who seemed to have jumped ship when Frank's chips were down. And to think that it is us, the brothers and our black sisters that rallied round him when he was going through his rough patch in 2003.

If you ask me, I think that our black sisters should stage a walkout and protest match at the Soho headquarters of the Football Association (FA), they should also put in their complaints in writing and demand the FA to launch an inquiry immediately into this growing trend of brothers abandoning their roots. If not checked, our sisters would loose all the few good (and rich) men (footballers) still around.

Thierry Henry is already taken, and by whom? Sure you guessed right, by a white chic. Christian Kerembeau, remember him? He was in the French world cup winning squad of 1998; and has been long taken by the supermodel Adriana who now also doubles as his wife. Even young Theo Walcott, the great black hope, didn't you see his white WAG (acronym for footballers wife and girlfriend invented by the British press, apparently the reasons for England's poor fortune at the World Cup) hanging out with other WAGS during the World Cup in Germany? Even Jermain Defoe, the petit sized Totenham Hotspurs misfit also always has a white chic in tow.   

Infact all the available black footballers are heavily into white chics, now you see where I'm coming from? This surely is worrying. It is only our black footballers from Africa who still manage to patronize the ethnic community as regards their choice of girlfriends or wives, see how Kanu Nwankwo cleverly went back to his village to capture Amarachi, even Jay-Jay Okocha too; he imported his from back home. I don't know about Celestine Babayaro, but I sure don't trust that brother, every time you run into him in a bar or club in London, you will find him in the company of white chics. Sisters, please do us and yourselves a big favour, go grab him now, don't let him go the way of the others. It's your money after all; help keep it in the black community. And while you are at it, do a stakeout at Stamford Bridge for John Obi Mikel, it's always better to catch them young before these white chics capture him too, Afterall he is now a Chelsea FC football millionaire. 

Or won't you guys like to see our Ifeomas, Fumis and Aminas dashing in and out of Harrords under the cover of large dark Gucci sunglasses, clutching Louis Vitton multi-colour bags and being chased down by the paparazzi, of course with those William ‘the fridge' Perry type bodyguards in tow ? These brothers should help and bring some glamour into our black community. We are tired of the drugs and teenage pregnancy stories all the time.  

Look at O.J Simpson's experience in America; surely he didn't think that Nicole Brown-Simpson was going to be there with him forever, did he? Who wants to hang around an out-of-pocket, has-been football player? When O.J lost his star power and wasn't attracting much society gossips and column inches anymore, Nicole walked. Which white chic will endure that kind of humiliation? But our black sisters would, they would always be there, come rain or shine or am I fantasizing here?

This is not to say that black men are not capable of loving white women and vice versa, and don't you go thinking that I'm racially biased, no I am not. I have been with white chics in the past but surely like attracts like. I'm down with our black sisters any day, for reasons that wifey won't like to see me mention here. Again, don't call me a racist, but we sure do have lots of unmarried sisters in our communities, and it would help our cause if the likes of Ashley Cole do also look their way. As role models to young black men, they should set the pace.

Who says black sisters can not generate enough column inches and media profile, capable of attracting sponsorships and increased earnings for black brothers? The person should check out Naomi Campbell, a sister like that is capable of reviving dead careers with her on your side. That's what I'm talking about.  

Our Nigerian sisters though may not care a hoot about this because they got it all going and wrapped up for them by our Nigerian brothers, but the challenge also goes to them. Despite all their sme sme and garagara, we are yet to hear of any of them that have landed a big fish since Regina Askia's misadventure when she married the African-American Rudolph Williams, the marriage has since broken down because of Regina's continued extra-marital relationship with Charles Orie, a close friend of late Obidiozor Otokoto of the 1996 Otokoto ritual fame.

Our Nigerian sisters should at least show some sisterly love; by showing some concerns and worry on behalf of our Caribbean sisters over the way white chics now grab the few eligible and rich brothers still available. It could be them being served next.

July 2006. info@uchenworah.com    



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Re: .Brothers Behaving Badly
Emj posted on 07-23-2006, 16:19:50 PM
Uche--my people go say---ohun ti owun omo je kin run omo ninu---the thing wey person like to chop, no go give am belly-ache-----meaning na dem saka----if dem like, make dem marry 250% white self-----na dem wahala be dat----na as everybody bin lay hin bed, he go lay on top am.

The experience thus far, with a lot of black brothers who have made it, is that, their kind ain't good enough for them. They feel that getting hitched to a white chick will accelerate their career and status, and like u rightly discerned, they are the worst for it, when the chips are down, the white chick takes a hike----won ran eniyan kankan nise---dem no send.

As for our black sisters going through the same fit of anger that the carribean sisters are having ain't the solution. The solution is for them to set out to be a sucess, that it will be the guys that will be seeking to court the friendship of Naija babes----"to be the best at what you do"---shikena
Re: .Brothers Behaving Badly
Vatika posted on 07-23-2006, 16:42:27 PM
O'boy, don't forget that ashley cole, theo walcot and some others are themselves united nations (mixed)! let them make their choice.

What about Finidi George wahala at Ajax Amsterdam, when he imported soul sister from downtown? the sister changed direction on arriving Amsterdam!

Sorry Uche, we are with white chics here too. far more conducived, to importing soul sisters with their family wahala!!
Here we go again..
Auspicious posted on 07-23-2006, 16:55:33 PM
Uche, you have ignited another favorite theme of the Villagers.

I predict a rapid succession of denials, like the staccatto of gunfire,
raining down from the sisterfolk thus:

"Who cares about brothers going for caucasian sisters? We are
fine and we can hold our own"

"Those brothers are loosers jere. They can't handle being with
strong black women" - ati bee bee lo..[etc, etc..]

Meanwhile, yours truly here believes "the darker the berry, the
juicer it is".

It's all a matter of preference o jere; whatever rocks anybody's
boat is what he/she goes for.

I await for the salvos to come flying..next to religion, this is the
Villagers faviorite theme..
Re: .Brothers Behaving Badly
EezeeBee posted on 07-23-2006, 16:59:24 PM
Auspicious, I disagree with you; if the villagers accept the mantra 'to each his own' this should be a short lived exchange. If they don't...
Re: .Brothers Behaving Badly
NJDiaspora posted on 07-23-2006, 17:09:14 PM
I have never suspected that our own cosmopolitan Uche can be racist. Human heart should be large enough to accept/repect other races. Love should be blind and humanity should remember that we are the same, though our histories and socio-economic status may be different. Once you start to think like this you bring back hatred and division. Very soon you will turn inward and ask why Igbo Chicks like Jeniffer allow richman Atiku to cool them down or why an Ireti will find her hope with Customs-man Abubarkar Atiku. Water should be allowed to find its own level. Love can be any where white or black let each find his own. I hope you know Black sisters are FULL of ceremonies. You will buy Dinner, buy Breakfast all because you think you like someone who likes you. Let the truth be written Black sisters and their family will stress you unlike the White women who limit the stress factor to just themselves. God help men
NJ
Re: .Brothers Behaving Badly
Papino posted on 07-23-2006, 17:32:57 PM
Uche,
You should have done yourself some good by avoiding explosive topics like this to the square.Your new attempt at selling Pat Utomi to us here would dampen if you don't check it.
What happened to choice in the 21st century?You are busy giving arm chair statistics of failed black/white marriages without noting that the highest rate of divorce in migrant America and Europe is among Nigerians.
Did you forget that Sunday Oliseh's wife is from Belgium?For your information,he is happy.Somebody reminded you that Finidi brought a babe from Port-Harcourt to Amsterdam and omoge left him for a drug boy!!It took a strong heart for "Finito"to handle his Ajax hard training sessions with a heart-break from soul-food-cooking-bigass-endowned sister.These are singular instances and is no attempt to generalise.Marriage can take you anywhere and unless you are close enough,you cannot determine why the brothers opt for white women.
Your instance about Regina Askia got me confused as Rudolph is black.The attempt to point the reason for a demise of the marriage to extra-affairs with Charles Orie suggests that she should have limited her conjugal relations only to people from South-East Nigeria.
Nwokem,take am easy oo.
Re: .Brothers Behaving Badly
Ajibs posted on 07-23-2006, 17:36:07 PM
QUOTE:
have never suspected that our own cosmopolitan Uche can be racist. Human heart should be large enough to accept/repect other races. Love should be blind and humanity should remember that we are the same, though our histories and socio-economic status may be different.


I also am still scratching my head to see whay Uche wrote this piece! Haba, possibly nah joke, in fact nah joke true true.

Eze,
QUOTE:
if the villagers accept the mantra 'to each his own' this should be a short lived exchange. If they don't...


Ahh, my brother, well said. But you know villagers, somebody is probably already writing a 10 page epistle in support of Uche!

You know what I find ironic? We scream daily in this very village about racism, and its ills, and I find it funny that people may not realize that one of the best ways to solve racism is via Inter-racial relationships. The more the people of the world mix, the less anomosity they may have towards each other. Beacuse people will find that within their extended family are people from that race they are supposed to hate, and that person in their family is a damn good human being.

QUOTE:
I have been with white chics in the past but surely like attracts like.


Funny enough, in Physics we learn that like dispels like and unlike poles attract!
QUOTE:

The person should check out Naomi Campbell, a sister like that is capable of reviving dead careers with her on your side. That’s what I’m talking about.


Uche, Naomi? This same Naomi who was recently arrested and also sued for throwing a cell phone at her assiatant and at one point getting into a fist fight with her maid? Please find a better black sister like Halle Berry or Queen Latifa. I beg.
Re: .Brothers Behaving Badly
Ozodiosuji posted on 07-23-2006, 20:41:55 PM
Uche, you are one of the folks that I read on a regular basis. I am, therefore, surprised that you descended to crass racism supported with dubious statistics.
If you looked a bit deeper, you would probably find data supporting the opposite of your assertions: if black men fall into hard times, black women probably abandon them faster than white women do; many successful black women are high maintenance creatures, and if you do not have the dough to support their Nuevo rich life styles, out the door they go!
People marry those they marry for different reasons and we may never know why they do so unless we ask them individually.
Perhaps, one of the reasons why some successful blacks (many successful black American women marry white men, too) marry whites is proximity? If you are good at doing whatever you do, you are brought to the attention of a larger circle of folks and therefore make friends with folks that ordinarily you would not? Poor black folks are generally limited to relationships within the black community. I could think of other reasons why blacks marry whites.
As technology breaks down the distance that separated folks and as cultures break down and folks from different cultures come together and form a unified culture, there probably would be more interracial marriages?
As what separates folks decreases what unifies them increases.
Finally, calling women chicks is condescending towards them. It is useful to see folks as individuals and leave each of them to marry whomever he or she likes. Ozodi
Re: Here we go again..
Emj posted on 07-23-2006, 21:09:13 PM
QUOTE:
Uche, you have ignited another favorite theme of the Villagers.

I predict a rapid succession of denials, like the staccatto of gunfire,
raining down from the sisterfolk thus:

\"Who cares about brothers going for caucasian sisters? We are
fine and we can hold our own\"

\"Those brothers are loosers jere. They can't handle being with
strong black women\" - ati bee bee lo..[etc, etc..]

Meanwhile, yours truly here believes \"the darker the berry, the
juicer it is\".

It's all a matter of preference o jere; whatever rocks anybody's
boat is what he/she goes for.

I await for the salvos to come flying..next to religion, this is the
Villagers faviorite theme..




Oya afira--wipen the grin off ya face Black sisters can sure hold their hold.
Anyways etc etc ati bebelo
Re: .Brothers Behaving Badly
Edna posted on 07-23-2006, 23:32:00 PM
Drama! Drama!! Drama!!! Sorry ladies, some black women not well grounded and cultured bring all sorts of baggage to their marriage eventually destroying the man and his household. This is why our people will research family lineage of both parties before giving blessing. How many of us know what we settle for before we say "I do".
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