Is this their London ? (part one) Print E-mail
Written by Taslim Anibaba   
Wednesday, 06 June 2007
 
 

"Emancipate  yourselves  from mental  slavery

none but  ourselves can  free  our  minds"

- Bob Marley

 

Introduction

I  was indeed  fascinated  when  the  organization  that  I  work for  nominated  me  for  a two week  course  in  London.

I was  fascinated  because  the  last  time I  had  anything  to  do  with  the  United Kingdom was  in  1986  when  I  stopped  writing  the  Institute of  Cost & Management Accountants’ (now CIMA)  examinations  after  passing the  Foundation A &B of  the  body.

So it  was  with great expectations  and  joy  that  I  left  Nigeria on  the  2nd of  June  and  by  the  time  we  landed at  Heathrow airport,  I  was  not  dreaming  afterall.

Our  plane  landed at  about  2.30pm and  after  immigration formalities  we  had  to wait  for  more  than one  hour  to  collect  our  baggage.

I had  arranged for  a friend to  meet  me  at  the  airport  and  after  waiting for  another  half an  hour  I  decided  to  take  a  cab  to  my  hotel -  Fox  & Goose  on  Hanger  Lane,  Ealing.  The  driver, a  Ghanaian  was  very  friendly and  in less  than  five  minutes he  started to  narrate  to  me the  economic and  social  pressures  confronting  him  in  London.  I  advised  him  to  go  back  to  his country  and  help  contribute  his  quota  to  the  development  of the place. 

He  told  me  that  he  had  considered  that  option  several  times  but  could not  muster  enough  courage  to  actualize  it.  He  however  promised  me  that  he will take  the  decisive  step  very  soon.  The  African  connection  really worked  for  me  because he  gave  me  some  tips  about  survival  strategies  in  London.

By  the  time  I  was  checked into  my  room,  I  was  too  tired  to  do  any other  thing  so  I  retired  for  the  day  after  my  prayers.

The  following  day  was  a  Sunday  and  I woke  up  a  little  late.  I  had  breakfast and  McDonalds  and  lunch  at  an  Indian  restaurant  close  to  my  hotel.  The  owner  was  at  first  apprehensive  when  I  entered  the  restaurant but  he  later  relaxed  and  we  had  useful discussions on  poverty,  underdevelopment,  the G-8 summit  and  his native  country  India.  I  seized  the  opportunity  to  inform  him of  my  admiration  and  respect  for  Mahatma Gandhi  and  my  disappointment  over  the desecration  of  all  that  he  lived  and  died  for  by  the  succeeding  generations  of  Indians.

My reservation  at Fox &  Goose  was  just  for  two  nights and  I was  told  that I  could  not  extend it  so I  had  to  look  for another  hotel.  Once  again  the  African connection worked for  me.  The  cab  driver was  very friendly and  he  offered  to  take  me  to  a  decent  hotel.  He  did.  And  in  addition,  he  advised  me  on  several  issues  including  the need  for me to  conserve  my  funds.  He  also  gave  me  hints  about  the pranks  usually  paid  by  cab drivers  to  make  their  passengers pay more  and  how  I  can  avoid  such situations.  He  also instructed me  on  how  to  get  to  my  training  centre (at  Alperton House)  from  the  hotel.

To  these friends  of  mine  whose  names  I  have  withheld  for  personal  reasons, I  say  a  big  Thank  you.

I spent  most  of  the  evenings indoors  watching  television  and  I  was  delighted  when  one  of  the stations (I  think it was  BBC)  ran  a  documentary on  Bob Marley.  I  sat  glued  to  my television  for almost  two  hours  and  had  to  delay  my  Ishai  prayers  until a few  minutes  to  12midnight.  It  was  awesome  as  speaker after  speaker  paid  glowing tributes  to  the  late  Bob Marley.  However,  looking  at  the socio-cultural  environment in London  today, one  is  at  a  loss  whether  the  average  Londoner has  learnt  anything  from  the  message  of  this  great  man.  Bob Marley  spent  some  years  of  his  adult  life  in  London.

 

The Doctrine of  Dog eat  Dog

I woke  up  early on  Monday morning  and  headed straight for the  training  centre at  Alperton  House.

After registration  and  the exchange of  pleasantries,  the  training  programme started  at  9am.

The  programme  co-ordinator gave  an  insight  into  the  society  that  we have  just  found  ourselves  when he  gave  the  pep  talk on  leadership,  success and  survival.

He told  us  that  the  concept  of  dog-eat-dog  is  central to  achieving  success in  life.  He went  on  to  tell  us  how we  can  retain  competitive  edge in the  workplace  by  adopting and  applying  this  principle.

Of  course I  disagreed  with  him  on  the grounds  that there  is no  one  perfect way of  measuring  success  and  that  human  beings  need  not  be  beastly  in  their  pursuit  of any  goal.   I  also informed  him  that the concept  of  dog  eat  dog is  cruel  with  disastrous  consequences  as  can  be seen  today  in  Iraq, Afghanistan, United States of America, Darfur and  even in some  corporate organizations  that  are  being  weakened not  by  market/external  forces  but  by  internal  strife  caused by  ambition, greed, nepotism,  corruption  etc.

According  to Gandhi  in  his  book The  Story  of  My  Experiment with Truth,  “…..morality is the  basis  of  things, and  that  truth is  the  substance of  all  morality”.  Not  laws or  some inhuman theories that  seek  to  reduce  man to  the  level  of  beasts.  As  I  said earlier, inspite  of  the plethora of  laws and regulations in  the  United  Kingdom,  crime  ranging  from stealing of  petrol (₤18million was lost in 2006), kidnapping, house breaking, murder, manslaughter, binge driving, drunkenness, car theft, credit card scams etc  are on the  increase.

 If  one  is  to  simulate  this  using  the  Pavlovian  theory of  motivation,  it  is  easy  to  conclude  that the  laws and  regulations  are  indeed the  conditioned  stimulus for this sorry  state  of  affairs.  Man  has  lost it  all  and is reverting  to laws instead of  taking  steps  to restore  the dignity of  man.  It is  a shame!

It is  the  belief  and internalization of destructive  concepts  such as  this  that  has  resulted in  the palpable  tension and  distrust in  this  society.  Children  are  not  even  spared as  child  kidnapping  and  paranoia  is  on  the increase. Family  ties and  values departed this  shore  a  long  time ago.

The consequence? These are,  amongst  others  “divided  communities”  and “communities that  are  suspicious  of each  other”.   This  state  of  affairs  is  undoubtedly  bothering  the  government  such  that  it is  now  making  spirited efforts  at  restoring  the old  and  cherished  values of  the British (I  will  return to  this  later).

At  tea time the participants who  are mostly from Nigeria  launched  into  hot  debates on  topics ranging  from  OBJ (some  Nigerians  indeed are  missing  him), to  politics  and  women.

Infact  almost  all the  women  agreed  that  Nigerian women married  to  Nigerian  men  in  England  are  terrorizing  their  husbands because  of  the power  that  the law  and  the  justice  system have  bestowed on them.  They  concluded  that the  Nigerian married  men  in the United  Kingdom  are nothing  but  “glorified houseboys” to  their  wives. This is in  sharp contrast to  African cultures, values and practices  which  bestows the  headship of  the  household on  the  man.  So an  African  man loses his identity  and  rights  simply  because  he  is  living  in a  foreign  land.  Na  wa oo.  A  case of  robbing  Peter  to  pay  Paul I  heard  you  say.

A  story  was  told  of  how  a  Nigerian man  bore  all the  insults from his wife  while  he  was  living  with  his  wife  in  London  but divorced  her  immediately they  landed  in  Lagos when  they eventually  returned  home; he  did not  even  allow  her  to  go with  him  to  their  residence.

 

Humanity In Chains

As  I  stated earlier,  I began to  relate  with  the  people  and  my  environment the  moment  I  landed  at  Heathrow airport.

The  scope  of  my  interactions however  was  limited  to  the  distance covering Heathrow, Hanger Lane, Alperton, Wembley and Harrow  as  at  the  time of  writing.  Within  this  circumference, I  visited  shops,  malls,  and  food  joints including  hotels.

The  first  thing  that  struck  me  was the  fact  that  this  is  a  society  with  too  many laws.  It  is  not  impossible  that  one  can  spend  a  life time  studying  the  laws  and  yet  not  be  able  to  avoid  flouting one  or  two in daily  pursuit of  one’s  legitimate business.  Such  infraction may not  necessarily  be premeditated or  willful;  it  may  simply  arise from the  imperfections of  human nature.

There  are  laws to  cover  every  conceivable  aspect  of  the  life of  human beings such  that  residents  are  seen  and regarded  as  robots  by  those in authority.

Indeed  before  the  end of  June, it  will be  an  offence  for  residents  to drink in  their homes!  I  am  convinced  that  my  dog  in  Nigeria  has  more  freedom  than the  residents of  this  city.  And  are  the  laws  effective?   Recent statistics reported  in  the  news,  especially  on  BBC  reveal  that  the  converse is  the  case; criminal  activities are  on  the increase.  For instance, it was  reported  that  over  11million  criminal  cases  were  recorded in  2006  alone  while  over  60,000 people  were  interrogated.

As  a  result of  this,  the  residents  live  in perpetual  fear (a great  source of  worry, suspicion and hatred) – inside  the  bus, elevators, tubes, shops, eating joints, hotels etc.  This  phobia  is growing  and  eating up men, women and  children..

According to Mohandas Gandhi ”There is an orderliness in the universe, there is an unalterable law governing everything and every being that exists or lives. It is no blind law; for no blind law can govern the conduct of living beings.”

I observed  that   people  are  generally  cold, unfriendly, disrespectful, unreceptive and wear  long  faces;  people  don’t  smile  in  this  place.  If  you  dare  approach a  “white man” for  directions or  assistance in  locating  a  place,  you  are almost  likely  to  meet  a brickwall.

Even Indians,  whose  forefathers  suffered discriminations, indignity and  several abuses  in  the  United Kingdom  until  Mohandas Gandhi and other civil rights groups  came  to  their  rescue  even  discriminate  against  blacks.  It  does  not  matter if  you  are  a  lawyer, an  accountant or  a  medical  doctor  and  he  is  a  shop  attendant or janitor.  It  does not  matter  whether  you  earn ten  times  his  annual  salary  and  in  the upper  income bracket,  he  approaches  you  with  an  arrogant  display of  “superiority”.

Perhaps  the  new  area  of study  called  artificial    intelligence  will  be patronized by this people  to  enable  them  know,  upon  sighting  everyman  the  class  to  which  he/she  belongs.

If  Nigerians are  the  happiest  people in the  world,  then  going  by  my  experiences  so  far, it  may  not  be  entirely wrong  to  say  that  the residents of  London  are  the  most  cynical  people in  the  world.

It  is  therefore  a welcome  relief that  the government  is  proposing Britain Day in her  bid  to  bring back  the  cherished values of  the British  and  to  restore  the  dignity  of  man  to  residents.

However,  there  are  good  things  to  talk  about  London  and  these  will  be  covered  in  the  concluding  part  coming  soon.

Thanks  for  having  read  this  article.

Taslim Anibaba (FCA)                             5th  June,  2007

tanibaba@yahoo.com

 




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Anibaba,
Good to read that you are in London.................Kindly join us this weekend at the now very popular beer parlour called Duntai on Plumstead High Street where we relax, drink and play Scrabble and Ludo.

See you there on Saturday!!

Cheers,
Wale

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I observed that people are generally cold, unfriendly, disrespectful, unreceptive and wear long faces; people don’t smile in this place. If you dare approach a “white man” for directions or assistance in locating a place, you are almost likely to meet a brickwall.
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Tanibaba:
Interesting view of London from the eyes of an ‘outsider’. I hope the Naija residents of UK reading your article will recognize the value of seeing London from the eyes of a visitor and not rush to “correct” you on what you saw.

My own brief visits to and from London some years ago consisted of being picked up at the Airport by a friend whenever I stopped over in London on my way to or from Nigeria. I usually had five to ten hours layover time between flights. She would take me to her house by train and take me back to the Airport by train the same day. I had the opportunity to compare the London train ride to the Washington, D.C. subway system. One was cold and the other warm; one carried dreary-looking passengers, the other had lively passengers; one had old and unclean seats, the other had new and clean seats; the passengers in one hardly held hands, while the passengers in the other had people often with arms on the shoulders of companions; people sat down in one and hardly said hello to each other, while people would easily strike up conversations with co-riders in the other; people in one were not dressed well, while passengers in the other were professionally dressed.

But, let me hasten to add, that I enjoyed every minute of my times in London, perhaps because of my friend who would still be showing me more of London today if she hadn’t made the mistake of getting married. I would pay her greater tribute here, name and all, but ... for all I know her husband may be a member of NVS ...

Enjoy your visit.

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<QUOTE=WaleAkin;181585>Anibaba,
Good to read that you are in London.................Kindly join us this weekend at the now very popular beer parlour called Duntai on Plumstead High Street where we relax, drink and play Scrabble and Ludo.

See you there on Saturday!!

Cheers,
Wale



I must say; that’s very nice of you, a good heart, indeed.

Warn Anibaba not to take a taxi though, if he does it will cost him
an arm and a leg, I'll say about £25-£30.

Posted by Jah Guda| 06.06.2007 12:48

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Hello Taslim,

Enjoy your time in London, as much as possible. Forget the unfriendly dispositions, but if you care so much about that, take a trip to Portugal or any other part of the Iberian axis. If I were to advise again, I would say, don't go to the royal palace. But if you do, don't attach more importance/enthusiasm to it than visiting the palace of an Oba in Lagos.

@ Wayoguy, looks like you are a good bad boy :wink:, don't even try to steal the show here

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Infact almost all the women agreed that Nigerian women married to Nigerian men in England are terrorizing their husbands because of the power that the law and the justice system have bestowed on them. They concluded that the Nigerian married men in the United Kingdom are nothing but “glorified houseboys” to their wives. This is in sharp contrast to African cultures, values and practices which bestows the headship of the household on the man. So an African man loses his identity and rights simply because he is living in a foreign land. Na wa oo. A case of robbing Peter to pay Paul I heard you say.



Aiyyaaaahhhhh!!!! Is this what Nigerian men go through in London? O ma se oh...

Thanks for telling your story from an outsiders perspective Taslim. We learn everyday

Posted by tatafo| 06.06.2007 13:47

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hello Mr Anibaba

Your story was a good read but I think it was greatly influenced by your peceptions of London town. When I visited London for the first time many years ago I was too captivated by the scenery that I had no time to study the behaviour of people. Londoners definitely have fun, maybe not what you may consider fun but they do have fun. In London when it is time to work, people go to work and when it is time to play, then it is time to play. What did you expect to see on the train on a monday morning, people dressed in t-shirts, bermuda shorts and flip flops smiling like they had just won the lottery? White londoners will acknowledge you if you approach them. You may have come across a BNP activist or maybe you approached the ' white man' with your naija gra gra and big man mentality. When I was in London, white Londoners responded when I asked questions and one, a complete stranger even agreed to take a picture with me which I brought back to Nigeria to prove to boyz that I had made white friends

I say to you sir, forget what you have heard, clear your mind, make sure say pepper rest and go back to London on a proper holiday and you will surely have a memorable time.

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'They concluded that the Nigerian married men in the United Kingdom are nothing but “glorified houseboys” to their wives'

They = your typical them say stories. Who are these they? . I think that part of your story was total bull and would have been best left out

Regards

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=WayoGuy;181618>I observed that people are generally cold, unfriendly, disrespectful, unreceptive and wear long faces; people don’t smile in this place. If you dare approach a “white man” for directions or assistance in locating a place, you are almost likely to meet a brickwall.
============================================

Tanibaba:
Interesting view of London from the eyes of an ‘outsider’. I hope the Naija residents of UK reading your article will recognize the value of seeing London from the eyes of a visitor and not rush to “correct” you on what you saw.

My own brief visits to and from London some years ago consisted of being picked up at the Airport by a friend whenever I stopped over in London on my way to or from Nigeria. I usually had five to ten hours layover time between flights. She would take me to her house by train and take me back to the Airport by train the same day. I had the opportunity to compare the London train ride to the Washington, D.C. subway system. One was cold and the other warm; one carried dreary-looking passengers, the other had lively passengers; one had old and unclean seats, the other had new and clean seats; the passengers in one hardly held hands, while the passengers in the other had people often with arms on the shoulders of companions; people sat down in one and hardly said hello to each other, while people would easily strike up conversations with co-riders in the other; people in one were not dressed well, while passengers in the other were professionally dressed.

But, let me hasten to add, that I enjoyed every minute of my times in London, perhaps because of my friend who would still be showing me more of London today if she hadn’t made the mistake of getting married. I would pay her greater tribute here, name and all, but ... for all I know her husband may be a member of NVS ...

Enjoy your visit.



WayoGuy!

Thank you very much for reproducing EXACTLY my feelings about my many frequent trips across the Atlantic. On the one hand, you have a place where your next friend is an hour to six hours journey away from you while on the other hand, your friend is just a couple of stops of a Bus and a Train Ride the town over...

The list goes on o'jare! Suffice to say, some of us just might have made those trips for the same reasons you made yours...until Hansel and Gretel got lost in the Maze of Winding Pathways in the Woods and never found one another again...:D

Now, I must go and read Mr. Anibaba's main article "make we relate" (a la "Dat Nigga Raw") :lol:

Auspicious.

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=pappilo;181650>'They concluded that the Nigerian married men in the United Kingdom are nothing but “glorified houseboys” to their wives'

They = your typical them say stories. Who are these they? . I think that part of your story was total bull and would have been best left out

Regards




A couple of questions, Pappilo.

Are you married?

Do you live in the U.K?

Are you aware of how many couples who have broken up in this town principally because of the issue?

Have you not heard or do you not know of anyone who fall into the category of people Tanibaba described?

I personally know loads!

And I've had a lady friend tell me to my face (albeit jokingly) - "Nigeria ni gbogbo agbara yin wa, Ti e ba ti le de Heathrow, O pari!" (All your gra-gra and power can only be weilded in Nigeria. Once you come to this country, you are powerless)

That is the mindset of some of our ladies around here. If you have not experienced it, do not say it doesn't exist.

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