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2009

Hair From Hong Kong & Bleached Skin Favored By Black Men? PDF Print E-mail
By Paul Adujie

Hair From Hong Kong & Bleached Skin Favored By Black Men?

By Paul I. Adujie

Lawcareer2007@aol.com

New York, United States

Why do Black women bleach skins? And why do Black women wear fake hairs? Are these what Black men want?

An African American comedian once joked that White Americans should be gratefully thankful to Michael Jackson because Michael Jackson mutilated himself by way of plastic or cosmetic surgeries to pay homage to his idea of beauty as an exclusive preserve, provenience and provance of white people.

Imitation it is said, is, the best form of flattery.

There are those, whom I would like to come across as my heroes, their aura, for in aspirations, words, actions and even in appearance; my heroes as such are Nelson Mandela, Steve Biko, Obafemi Awolowo, Nnamdi Azikiwe, Ahmadu Bello, Dr. Martin Luther King, Malcolm X etc. And the opposites of these are David Duke, George W. Bush or Adolf Hitler etc. You get the idea?

In the past, I have publicly wondered why continental African women and women of African descent feel the need to bleach their skins to pale yellow, and then also, go all out, in efforts and expenses to elongate their hairs!

Recently, I have come to include this skin bleaching and hair length obsessions with issues, for which I reserve analyses, mainly based on my theory of historical cause and effect, cause and effect, as constituting tools for thorough examinations.

We may begin this process by asking the question, which is; what sorts of women do continental African men and men of African descent want or prefer?

A further question might be a query, whether such preferences were home-grown or acquired and assumed taste?

Why is there a “market” among black men for bleached black women? What sorts of black men date and marry bleached black women? What sorts of black man marries black women with noticeably artificial hair of some unusual length and blond or platinum colors sometimes??

Exactly whose idea of beauty is being extolled in these pale yellow skins or fake long extended hair phenomena?

Further question might be, whether these practices are what black men really want and genuinely prefer? These must be? Or why would these practices be so seemingly acceptable and seemingly popular internationally?

How did black people move from Black Power clenched fist and all natural Afro hair, to the now pervasive fried or irradiated hair, proudly shoulder, waist length hair, proudly announced as 100% human hair from Hong Kong? And this is supposed to be progress?

Could these puzzles be solved by resting the motivation for the practices at the doors of former colonial and western media their skewed projection of what is pure, good and beautiful is blond having more fun puns?

Michael Jordan seemed to have saved the black man from these hair-raising conundrums. He solved the fake hair issue for black men quite a while ago with his trademark clean shaven head! And these days, at least in New York City, you are liable to see many men across the human race with bold Michael Jordan look or head-style! Before then, some black men used to wear wet-looks from so-called Jheri curls!

Not to be misunderstood, I must declare my knowledge or familiarity with men and women of other races’ struggles with fake hair, wigs and toupees. And yes, other races do wear hairpieces or horsehairs and all manners of hair extensions! Men and women of other races do have this hair challenge and bad hair lives.

But what mindsets do these people have anyways?

It can be observed that hairpieces are usually worn to “complement” or “augment” looks, usually nearly as consistent with the natural looks of such person wearing the hairpiece looks, appearance and color etc.

What I have often observed or frequently noticed among black women however, is the wearing of hair extensions to match the colors of their shoes or handbags or blouse! I often politely enquire why the choice and it ranged from it is the wearer’s freedom, to black women are more versatile. In color selections I suppose?

Why is it, that, black women do not extend their obsessions with skin color and hair lengths to weight loss? Being overweight is a health risk, and can become a matter of life and death! Lose weight, feel and look great!

I dare to say that there seem to be absence of any desire to disguise the fakery of the length of these hair or the loud colors! What do you make of black woman whose hair roots are clearly black shoe dark, and then, the outgrowth or two-thirds of her hair is considerably, remarkably and markedly variant from the color of the roots and visibly so!

When braids became popular in America about 15 years ago, I was elated, I thought it was the dawn of a cultural renaissance or reawakening through African hair revolution, but, I could never have imagined the coming of blond braids and waist length braids etc!

What explains these desires to be non-self, or be other than self, and outrageously so? I know that you have seen these black women whose hairstyles, hair appearance, textures, colors and hair length are just jaw-dropping loud!

Here you should be thinking, black women with blond colored hair, platinum colored hair or fire-engine-red hair.

You have to wonder whether this unwillingness to disguise the fakery of these genres of hairs, is some sorts of new acts of courage or some plain gaudy tawdry acts of tastelessness

Why would any black woman who is not a clown in a circus or playing a role in a puppet show were these outrageous costumes? What sorts of fashion statements would these possibly constitute and or convey to the world?

And more importantly perhaps, what sorts of black men date and or marry these sorts of women? Have continental African men, and men of African descent stated and unstated preferences led our women to these ostentatious self-denials and self-ridicules? But I guess you could say that our men and women are free to marry persons of other races, but, does the black race or must the black race lose our particulars, our cultural identifiers and essences?

What does our unwillingness to retain our identity say about us? What does all this say about our state of mind and our sense of selves? Are continental Africans and peoples of African descent truly comfortable in our skins and hairs? Have we accepted or agreed that we are inferior, compared with some “other” definition of beauty? What is the purpose of scheming mightily to look like someone else? And ending actually looking caricature of our former selves and looking ridiculous in the process? Why are Nigerians women the worst offenders and exporters of this seeming inferiority complex? I have been told by non-Nigerian women, that the “best” bleaching crèmes come from Nigeria and often recommended by Nigerians!

Nigeria ought to lead continental Africans and peoples of African descent in cultural identity and pride in all good things African!

It is easier, in all things, to be the best that we can be, instead of wasting time and precious resources in poor attempts at becoming someone else or a fake self, former self.

I think that it takes a great deal of courage and self-confidence for a black woman, amidst the deafening deluge of the multitudes to bleach into pale yellow and wear hairs from Hong Kong, to actually wear short hair or go completely bald, where such is not as a result of medically induced hair-loss, which are usually cancer chemotherapy related. I have met some black women, including an attorney in New York City, originally from Chicago, who shaves her head every few days! It is a testament of supreme self-confidence, it is powerful!

Personally, I will rather date and marry a bald hairless black woman, or, perhaps a white woman, instead of a poor imitation black woman, these Mardi-Gras Parade-like costumes with hair from Hong Kong, wearing black women!



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RobotRobot is offline

 # 1 | 28.05.2009 18:44

Hair From Hong Kong & Bleached Skin Favored By Black Men? By Paul I. Adujie Lawcareer2007@aol.com New York, United States Why do Black women bleach skins? And why do Black women wear fake hairs? Are these what Black men want? An African American comedian once joked that White Americans should be gratefully thankful to Michael Jackson because Michael Jackson mutilated himself by way of plastic or cosmetic surgeries to pay homage to his idea of beauty as an exclusive preserve, provenience and provance of white people. Imitation it is said, is, the best form of flattery. There are those, whom I would like to come across as my heroes, their aura, for in aspirations, words, actions and even in appearance; my heroes as such are Nelson Mandela, Steve Biko, Obafemi Awolowo, Nnamdi Azikiwe, Ahmadu Bello, Dr. Martin Luther King, Malcolm X etc. And the opposites of these are Dav...Read the full article.

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olusijiolusiji is offline

 # 2 | 28.05.2009 19:43

How do you teach self worth. What recipes will you put together to liberate an abused human mind. I believe these are the questions your submission seeks answers to.
I am as confused about why people are confused as those who suffer the confusion. Pray, let our prayers go to liberate them.

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Anioma777Anioma777 is offline

 # 3 | 28.05.2009 20:26

A very interesting article and one that shows a deep problem in the Nigerian pysche.

I think its to do with "some level of inferiority complex" of some black women in particular most Nigerina women who wear these cheap ( not impressed even if it cost £1000+ ) nasty contraptions that are for ever getting so long its just looks ridiculous.

I can understand some Black women say oh its because its more manageable...hmmmm maybe so. My mother and my sisters have good texture hair and wear their own hair with minimum fuss to take care of. For a long time now I have been obessesed with "Black or Nigerian Women with their OWN HAIR" and can ONLY TAKE A WOMAN WITH HER OWN HAIR SERIOUSLY. Maybe I am fickle but give me braids, short hair,abolo or even gerry curls :D anyday. A woman's Natural Hair should be her pride.

The problem with most Nigerians is that when they copy, they copy to a very vulgar and outrageous level.

The fact is that unfortunately MOST NIGERIAN AND BLACK MEN LIKE THIS MADNESS!!!! GOODLUCK TO THEM!!!:frown:

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M. AkosaM. Akosa is offline

 # 4 | 29.05.2009 01:28

The disappointing situation of the Nigerian women self image, self-worth and identity is very troubling indeed. Nigeria is now one of the worst places on earth to raise a girl-child.

The thing is that those women are fulfilling the expectations and the desires of their Nigerian men, who seek nothing else but to sexualize, humiliate and degrade them. The means for those Nigerian women to survive is to warm beds for sugar daddies, become mistresses and concubines, pimps or madams. They possess no decent means of livelihood or careers and lacking in any other marketable skills, other than meeting the needs of men.

Of course how else do you expect them to keep up, other than bleach their skins and lives away, fix the most outrageous artificial and human hairs.

A dignified bald woman is a million times more worthy than a trash in a weave and bleached skin!!!

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LemeechiLemeechi is offline

 # 5 | 29.05.2009 07:01

This is also one thing I find rather funny—bleaching skins and wearing false hair. Most do it to follow the crowd they see on TV and around them, ignorant about what it really says about them. Some think it is simply the current fashion, and some with low cultural self esteem do it believing looking white is good business. I suggest we try and educate anyone we know to be in this habit. Education is the key.

I also see going about bald as another form of self-denial, not wanting people to see your natural hair. It's like saying my African hair is not good enough for the world to see, so I'd rather get rid of it.

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 # 6 | 29.05.2009 10:54


=Lemeechi;359685>This is also one thing I find rather funny—bleaching skins and wearing false hair. Most do it to follow the crowd they see on TV and around them, ignorant about what it really says about them. Some think it is simply the current fashion, and some with low cultural self esteem do it believing looking white is good business. I suggest we try and educate anyone we know to be in this habit. Education is the key.


The problem is no amount of education seeps in with those who are obsessed with fakery. Also, it's hard to combat since some girls practically come out of the womb wearing it. It's heartbreaking since the damage is irreversible.

I also see going about bald as another form of self-denial, not wanting people to see your natural hair. It's like saying my African hair is not good enough for the world to see, so I'd rather get rid of it.


I absolutely agree and know this to be true in many cases. However, some go for the shaved looked if they do not like the pattern of their baldness.

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 # 7 | 29.05.2009 12:21

I have given up every effort in trying to understand why anyone --- man or woman would use their money to turn their skin into the most horrible art work.

first, they deal with the black knuckles, then the dead-looking toes and my goodness the smell. some smell so corrosive, you would think the rubbed weedkiller on their skin.

The oyinbos they are trying to imitate are in 'heat houses' burning themselves to be like the africans and instead of us appreciating our precious skin we ....

And the issue of fake hair, some mothers these days even sew weave-on on the tender scalp of their toddlers, so tell mem what will be the child's reason not to continue the tradition?

That they do it because of men is even more sad. A man who would rather smell unwashed hair and 'chemicallised' skin, look and and admire a face with more colours that an adire, should please not come my way.

It is bad when a woman bleaches her skin, but whenever I come across a man with a bleached skin, it just ....... - - i no wan get ban for villegi o o , so i hold back.

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I Love NigeriaI Love Nigeria is offline

 # 8 | 29.05.2009 12:46

It is probably safe to say that Nigeria, nay, Africa is still traditional old world society.

A society where the majority of women still defer to men wrongly or rightly, on a majority of issues; that being the state of affairs, men are able to prevail on a wife or girlfriend not to wear very revealing or sexually provocative clothes. I take it therefore, that it is safe to assume that Nigerian men can also prevail on the daughter, wife or girlfriend not to bleach skin, or wear false hairs from Hong Kong which ridicules and caricatures their appearance

Nigerian, nay, African men can have an impact on bleaching and false hairs, if Nigerian, African men were truly opposed to these phenomena. Same way we might discuss trade in narcotics, the users of narcotics and the sellers (demand and supply of narcotics so to speak)

We probably should examine this as societal/community affliction, as opposed to gender against gender issue. There is a supply and demand at play here. I will not date a smoker, I will not date a bleached lady, I will not date false haired lady…. Could I date a smoker and complain about smokers?

The issues for debates here are not an attempt to bash women, no! It is more about the universal mindsets and or damaged psyche of continental Africans and peoples of African descent who are engaged in these self-degradations and self-reductions.

Are continental Africans and peoples of African descent so beaten and barraged, to the extent they now act to fit-into the “standard”

Are we so beaten that we now act without contemplations and deliberations in sundry matters, including matters such skin bleaching and false hairs?

Are we so beaten down and out, to the extent that we do not see the obvious implications of looking like a poor imitation of other races?

Bleaching and wearing false hairs have consequences of huge expenses, diseases and scorns.

Why do we bleach and wear false hairs? Still? –Paul Adujie

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 # 9 | 29.05.2009 12:55

http://elombah.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=238:oluchi&catid=46:naija-gossip&Itemid=64

Behold one of the most beautiful girls in Nigeria according to this source:

http://elombah.com/oluchionweagba5.jpg

Oluchi Onweagba.

A nice compromise. No bleaching, but with hair from 'Honk Kong'.


More pictures of our own Oluchi Onweagba in her full glory. Dark and lovely but with the "Hair from Hong Kong"

I have no problem with this at all. She is beautiful.

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 # 10 | 31.05.2009 05:44

FELA HAS SAID IT ALL

Think of any discourse that is raging in the NIGERIAN and AFRICAN SPACE, one man has already done JUSTICE TO THEM ALL.

We typically do not wonder why. I find myself, not unlike this author, writing about what this man, FELA ANIKULAPO KUTI had exhaustively dwelled on when it was not fashionable to.

As for me, i would not STOP REHASHING THE MAN'S WORK and i rate him the MOST FORMIDABLE INTELLECTUAL OF HIS TIME AND TILL DATE.

All hail the ABAMI EDA and the blogger's version of YELLOW FEVER!
 

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