12

Oct

2007

I don’t care what you all say, I am not a Nigerian PDF Print E-mail
By Dele Oluwole

“I wonder the way you guys think at times; having Nigerian names doesn’t make me a bit Nigerian. I have grown to know no other country but Britain”. Man is not measured by the size of the chest but by the quality that comes out of him, hence, his nationality, pride, and patriotism are dependants of his heart and not on geographical location. The Holy book says in Proverbs 4:23 “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life”.

A friend from Northern Ireland introduced to me his girlfriend whom he had spoken highly of several times in my presence. He once told me that the lady is everything to him and that he wishes to spend the rest of his life with her. Since he’s white himself, when he told me once that her girlfriend is a Zimbabwean I immediately wanted to ask if she’s white or black, but I quickly cautioned myself not to give an impression, so I was eagerly waiting to meet her.

 When the white Zimbabwean lady and I got talking I did not just discovered that she’s black in the inside but that she loves Zimbabwe with passion and still very much ready to migrate back to Zimbabwe as soon as the despot Robert Gabriel Mugabe is ousted. She’s an economic migrant in the UK who was forced out Zimbabwe by Mugabe’s excruciating economic policies but yet still proud to be Zimbabwean.

She was born in Zimbabwe and her use of ‘we’ when referring to Zimbabweans was to my heart delight. I looked straight into her eyes while we discussed hoping to find a bit of inconsistency. She spoke about Zimbabwe, Mugabe, and past leaders with so much authority and conviction. While the discussion lasted she repeatedly spoke of Zimbabwe as home. I have had a few black Zimbabweans as friends in the University and colleagues in places I worked in the past, but never met one that spoke with so much love, and hope for this sinking country, instead they delete Zimbabwe from their memories once they went pass the last immigration officer. The once not yet granted asylum statuses are ready to starve to death in protest against plan to move them back to Zimbabwe.

Since nationality, pride, and patriotism are dependants of a man’s heart and not on geographical location can we then compare the burning love in this white Zimbabwean to most Nigerian economic migrants that were fortunate to hold Charley’s mum's property, the British passport either because they were born in the UK or because their parents migrated here some years back?

If you were not born in the UK and you carry a British passport you’ll still have wherever you were born in Nigeria clearly inscribed as your place of birth. People in this category are scrutinized more at all European borders before they enter the EU after every trip out. Even if you were born in the UK, at employment or college entrance interviews, or when you engage in discussion with the whites they’ll still ask ‘where are you from originally”?  Your being Briton by mere ‘pali’ doesn’t make you white, you are still black whose descendants migrated by whatever means to the queen’s land, so the earlier you are proud of your heritage the better.

British Nigerians are quick to tell you they are Britons even when they have the sergeant inscription (traditional mark) on their faces. I remember deliberately asking the Zimbabwean lady where she’s from, and without mincing word with so much pride she said ‘Zimbabwe’. For a lady whose parents were chased out of a land they have farmed for 30 years to still have such love for a country ……. its definitely a function of a heart that is the ‘wellspring of life’.

I have met British Nigerians who will give you a good fight if you dare call them Nigerians. An uncle who was on his way from Switzerland stopped over in London for 2 days while returning to Nigeria. He went out strolling in the evening and missed his way, so he went into a convenient store to get help only to run into a guy who was speaking Yoruba on the phone in a bus he took earlier. My uncle breath a sigh of relief, approached the stranger with a smile, and asked for how to find his way to Cheswick Park. The stranger did not respond so he thought he didn’t hear his first question and asked again in Yoruba, it was then the stranger now turned and replied “I don’t understand what you are saying”. My uncle now became uncomfortable and said ‘but I heard you speaking Yoruba in the bus ke’, by now the encounter was becoming edgy and the stranger who was already fuming uttered “How does speaking Yoruba makes me a Yoruba or Nigerian? Sorry I am neither Yoruba nor a Nigerian”. The Zimbabwean asked me if I speak any of the Zimbabwean dialects, when I said ‘no’ she was disappointed and asked if I can manage to speak Swahili. She was desperate to go local with me, but unfortunately we didn’t find a level ground in that part of the encounter so we continued the conversation in the queen’s language. Such are the hearts, black or white that are the ‘wellspring of life’, they will always want to be proud of their roots, blend very well in a multicultural society yet still identify with their culture.

 A Briton told me that when he travelled to the US for an official assignment the first thing he did after landing was to look out for a close British restaurant where he could always have his dinner.

 The Indians, Thais, Pakistanis, Americans, carry their countries in their hearts every where they travel to but alas most Nigerians drop them at MM airport before boarding the Boeing 747 across the Atlantic.



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RobotRobot is offline

 # 1 | 12.10.2007 09:26

“I wonder the way you guys think at times; having Nigerian names doesn’t make me a bit ...Read the full article.

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AfroCynicAfroCynic is offline

 # 2 | 12.10.2007 10:42

With other non white ethnic groups, the idea of an 'other' or a hyphenated identity is openly embrace e.g British-Pakistani or British-Indian, because they understand that though, they were born in the UK, there are cultural and ethnic ties that go beyond these shores. Looking at us, we are already different, the colour takes care of that, so I think a lot of Nigerians try to over compensate, consequently, the cultural signifiers are loosened or discarded altogether.

It's crazy, you have Nigerian children who cannot speak or understand the language, it makes me sick.

I do not have any special feelings for the UK, I love London and that is about it. The fact that I carry a British kpali leads to me to no illusions about where it is I come from.

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PalamedesPalamedes is offline

 # 3 | 12.10.2007 12:17

Mmmm, “Not me”. Says I, for I am yet to meet a Nigerian man, woman, or pikin, who denies his or her Nigerian heritage. I heard that even Dame Shelley Bassey is proud of her Nigerian heritage—so they say.

And when the world cup days are nigh (I can't wait), their children shall all be kitted in the best SuperEagles replica shirts. Sadly, some are unacquainted with the Nigeria beyond their village, and I have had question marked placed next to my Nigerian heritage(Damn!). “I be 9ja o”, with these words I cry, and only then do I witness a slight change of heart.

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aguabataaguabata is offline

 # 4 | 12.10.2007 13:53

i sincerely hope this writer isnt naive in thinking that the white lady loves black zimbabwe, speak to a zimbabwean, zambian or south african blacks and then you will understand the Zimbabwe she loves, these minority white families run the economy of these southern countries and live like princes and princesses, she must be rearing to go back, she must have felt so uncared for in the streets of Ireland. Maybe?:biggrin::biggrin:

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IZONEREIZONERE is offline

 # 5 | 12.10.2007 13:53

I've Never met any Nigerian who denies his heritage either. Not even the ones who were born here.

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villageHeadMastervillageHeadMaster is offline

 # 6 | 13.10.2007 15:12

Nice one Dele…

I’m very much at the verge of coming to what might be a very wrong conclusion that “only black Africans can’t stand Africa”, especially when I encounter the likes of your article's main protagonist and Mark Thatcher who for one reason or another are forced, kicking and screaming, out of Africa …

My allusion of the black African’s hatred for Africa is not helped by the many encounters of Nigerians who gleefully deny their Nigerian roots…the funniest being Nigerians who happily bring their newly acquired foreign passports to Nigerian embassies to apply for visas to their own country…come on you have dual nationality ...Commonsense dictates that you use it….*shakes head*…

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CelticologistCelticologist is offline

 # 7 | 13.10.2007 16:48


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I've Never met any Nigerian who denies his heritage either. Not even the ones who were born here.




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My allusion of the black African’s hatred for Africa is not helped by the many encounters of Nigerians who gleefully deny their Nigerian roots…the funniest being Nigerians who happily bring their newly acquired foreign passports to Nigerian embassies to apply for visas to their own country…



Obviously two different experiences of a common social statement.

As an aside, I will be appalled if my kids go out there and represent anything else but Tortuga, or dare speak in any other language apart from Tortugeese, or wear anything else but Tortugowns and Turtleneck. Any of them who dances to any other genre apart from Turtujazz better not come back home!. We don't have electricity, water, hospitals or even universities where such inventions as "european education" are dispensed. But the geographical entity of Tortuga is still ours, no one else's!.

Depending on the intended aim and anticipated results, there are different ways to deny Nigeria. A Nigerian male may be trying his best to impress a hard-to-get sort of nosey female of a different nationality whose dad works in a financial industry or law enforcement. A female may be out to add some worth to her current value...Or guys just coming to accept that they have little spiritual connection to the land. It goes on and on.

These are the most common methods and women are likely to have heard them all:

"I was born there, but I grew up in the states".....*(grew up since the age of 18 he means).

"I was born here, but my parents are from there"....*(despite a very strong lagos english).

"I was raised here since the age of X"....so I am not really from there"!. *(and then hides in a corner to take a phone call, making himself think you wouldn't figure out who else ends an english sentence with a perculiar "o").

"I am actually half Nigerian, but my mum is Jamaican and her mum is South Efrican". *(Then goes on to invent a whole salad of nationalities, explicitely placing little emphasis on the Nigerian side).

"I'm from Detroit". *(Despite knowing very well what the actual question really meant).

The rather strange precedence to denial begins in the south of Nigeria where the vast majority in the middle class, especially Yorubas hardly communicate with their kids in the local language; English is widely prefered. At about age 18 the child is almost a european, and a tourist at that!.
One comic level of this phenomenon is when kids raised abroad go home on holidays with their Nigerian parents. They carry the local name, but have zero knowledge of the local language. They are looked upon with envy and every kid on the block wish they were your kids!.
The interesting coincidence though is that Nigerians abroad are wishing that their kids speak yoruba, igbo, and efik which isn't a bad thing, but it's like Nigerians in Nigeria are raising theirs for europe and the US.

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omaksomaks is offline

 # 8 | 13.10.2007 18:26

One is not an African just because he was born in Africa, but because Africa is born in him.........., by extention, One is not a Nigerian just because he was born in Nigeria, but because Nigeria is born in him. So those who deny that they are Nigerians because they are living in the comforts of a foreign land should be left to their delusions. As for me, I AM A NIGERIAN, and PROUD TO BE ONE irrespective of all the inadequacies.

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MeticulousMeticulous is offline

 # 9 | 14.10.2007 08:33

I kinda feel sorry for the author who appears to be going through identity issues.

Things is, when it come to issues of race or nationality, who you are becomes obvious to others. And as far as most are concerned, you are just another poor African economic refugee - with all the negative stereotypes that come with that.

So, you might as well be proud of something, and embrace your origins.

I sure know Nigerians in my neck of the woods that are extremely proud Nigerians.

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AfricaWest1AfricaWest1 is offline

 # 10 | 14.10.2007 09:10

Until someone kindly explains to me what it means to be a Nigerian, I will continue being a proud Igboman. No apologies...

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