Blacks & Whites: What's The Real Deal? Print E-mail
Written by Benedicta Onyero Droese   
Wednesday, 11 April 2007

Whites are racists!  Whites are naturally prejudiced!  Those white folks who act as if they like blacks are just full of it! Period. Are you washed-out by such statements?  Do YOU frankly believe that White people simply don’t like black people? A great number of us who live in some western nation have friends, family members, colleagues, or acquaintances that are Caucasian. Have YOU ever flat out asked them why? Have you ever pulled one of your buddies aside, even out of curiosity and asked, “What do Whites have against American blacks?” I have. Sorta.  And I’ll be more than happy to share some of my findings with you in a bit.

I am a member of an uncensored online group where most people are generally cordial.  With a white majority of approximately 90%, the ambiance is laid back and has a touch of proper southern hospitality. Occasionally, a group of ‘newbies’ with personal agendas and opposing views that are intended to stir the pot wander into the “opinions board.” They launch attacks at each other or at a select few. Some choose to duck. Others choose to stand tall and fire back the only way they know how. In the process, a normally calm atmosphere becomes a war zone. Derogatory remarks, racial slur and vulgarities that have been wrapped in (‘Malcolm X’ logo tee-shirts or the confederate flag) are hauled back and forth from both sides.  Eventually they wear each other out and move on- but not this time around. The ongoing feud between two of the most notorious alpha males and their sidekicks continued to sizzle and I had to step in. I was curious about the real reasons behind their ever so apparent animosity toward each other.  I was interested in finding out what else lurked inside their filthy mouths. I posted a question. Truth be told, my motive was not really inspired by my desire for some sort of truce or a cease-fire.  My motive was purely selfish.  I had to play the Devil’s advocate; I was looking for a scoop. Yep, that’s me. I was looking for an angle to a story that I’d been brewing for a while.  I was looking for answers to some serious questions. Questions that would probe into some pretty touchy issues; issues that most people don’t or won’t discuss openly, but think about nonetheless. Questions I knew that majority of the members - with the exception of Lou and Isis - would not touch with a 10-foot pole. So kick off your shoes, let down your hair, grab a bottle of Heineken or a jug of palm-wine if you prefer. You are about to find out what makes the blood of two grown men (who often behave like bratty school girls) boil.  Two alleged racists.  One black. One white.  Join me in my first Q&A edition of “Blacks and Whites: What’s the real deal?” 

Question-BD: As an individual who grew up in a society that’s still plagued by tribalism -a commonplace form of societal discrimination- I’ve often observed with keen interest the varying viewpoints that are expressed by some on this board, whenever a racially flavored issue of discussion pops up. I’ve often wondered why there’s no love lost between the likes of Isis and Loubro. I’ve heard of the blame game- as in the chip of racial resentment that many blacks still carry on their shoulders. I’ve heard of the race card- not quite yet what to make of it. My question is this… What’s the real deal? Please tell me there’s more to this "thingamajig" than the color of a person’s skin. Speak from personal experiences if you like. Speak from first, second, or third person’s perspectives if you choose. Either way, speak candidly; but please refrain from all forms of denigration and inflammatory rhetoric. Not interested in "back patting" opinions. Don't care for sentiments that have been drenched in honey, maple syrup or molasses. 

Answer-LOUBRO: The question you ask has volumes written about it. I could write a book about it myself. I am a black man and my opinion is biased as a result. But it is not so biased as to not have validity.

In my opinion this thingamajig as you describe it, is about color. Color is the dividing characteristic. Color is what is meant by words like, (us and them) when discussing race relations. It's just a plain ol' fact that people like to be among people like themselves. People make presumptions about 'them' whoever they may be. And most often, those assumptions are wrong because the reality of 'us' is different from the reality of 'them'. Studies have been done that verify that the fairer a job applicant is the more probable he will get hired. Not only does this phenomenon affect whites dealing with blacks. It also affects blacks dealing with blacks.

Why is it color? I would venture to say that it all began for the black man when the first white man met the first African. He found the African still living in tribes with no great cities and no advanced culture. They immediately felt that they were inferior and subsequently began to exploit them. At this time, I don't think there was hate so much as disdain. When slavery came to an end ‘we have a new reason to hate blacks’ appeared. The government had put blacks into power over the white southerners. They hated the blacks for that reason and felt it necessary to disenfranchise the blacks and put power back into the hands of whites. In steps, the KKK preaching purity of the white race and inventing all kinds of stories about blacks, generated hate. That hate can be witnessed by watching the movie 'Birth of a Nation" by D. W. Griffith. For some white people, that movie was their only contact with blacks and their whole opinion of blacks was determined by that movie. That same hate has been taught to each new generation.

Today, we have come a long way but the hate is still there just below the surface. The reason for the hate today is both varied and intense. I think the primary reason for the hate today is a misunderstanding or lack of knowledge as to how slavery affected blacks. Recently there were some newspaper stories about the people who lived in the low income housing in New Orleans. A lot of negativity surfaced about that. But from where I am standing those people are still suffering mentally from slavery, the Jim Crow laws and the legalized discrimination in jobs, education, housing and businesses that came after slavery. What I call a project mentality happens for a reason. Some white people, not all, would have you believe it is a genetic trait of blacks. It is not and the fact that most blacks overcome it is proof. Just like the millionaire mentality of the old money in America is passed on from generation to generation. So is the project mentality. 

 Question -BD: Lou, thanks for your detailed perspective. Let's have a paradigm shift for a minute, shall we? Let's talk about HERE and NOW. Is it possible that this phenomenon has absolutely nothing to do with something as harmless as the color of a person’s skin but has everything to do with the ACTIONS of the man or woman wearing that skin color? Is it possible that stereotypical assumptions, which influence our perceptions, interactions, and judgment of others, are not entirely without some merit? 

Answer -LOUDBRO: In the here and now my answer to the question is NO! It is not possible that this phenomenon has absolutely nothing to do with a person’s SKIN COLOR and everything to do with the ACTIONS of the man or woman wearing that skin color. It is possible that stereotypical assumptions are not entirely without merit. It is more possible that the stereotypical assumptions affects both people regardless of either’s actions.
The reason I say it is not possible that the hatred has nothing to do with skin color and everything to do with actions is based on a lot of things. The history of it. My experiences with it. The economics of it. I’ve been around or dealt with people whose actions support these negative assumptions. I hear stereotypical assumptions such as, neighborhoods becoming slums as a result of blacks living in them. The following labels are often reserved for blacks. Welfare mothers. Baby machines. Lazy. Violent. Yes, there is truth in these stereotypes. But I think the reasons for the actions, which cause these stereotypes, are rooted in color. Segregation and slavery for example, were done by color. Is it even possible to assume that segregation and slavery had no ill effects? The result of segregation, slavery and discrimination is, one society living with one reality and the other society living in another reality. Rich people associate with rich people. Thugs associate with thugs. I think this is also true of blacks and whites. Color is the dividing factor. If a person is deciding whom he is going to hire to work next to him I think it is natural to choose someone he feels comfortable with, who looks like him, speaks like him and can relate to. Unless the skill set of someone who does not fit that bill is in such great demand. Why would you want your schools all white? Was it not because they did not want their children to associate with blacks for fear that association would bring about assimilation of all characteristics including color? One could presume then, that if blacks were allowed to follow the same paths that whites were able to take when they came to this country they would have developed the same habits. Unfortunately, most blacks were not because they were black. Association does bring about assimilation.

Part 2 will be a continuation of my chat with Loubro in “Blacks &Whites: What’s the REAL DEAL?” Hear what else he has up his sleeves.  Meet Isis, the man who believes that the U.S would be as peaceful as a Scandinavian city if it weren’t for blacks. Find out why he proclaimed, “I don't mind living with any race except blacks.”




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Whites are racists! Whites are naturally prejudiced! Those white folks who act as if ...Read the full article.

Posted by Robot| 11.04.2007 11:08

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If you are in any doubt, please read the Isis paper by Dr Weisling. Then when you have finished, please ask the average black person on the street their experiences with caucacians and you will be surprised at the common trend.

Posted by el_pharoah| 11.04.2007 12:37

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Sigh...

Let's be clear about this. People never discriminate against physical characteristics per se - they believe the physical characteristics are a sign of a particular behaviour or culture, and then they discriminate against that behaviour/culture. In other words, people form (erroneously or otherwise) an association between people with certain physical characteristics and certain behaviour, and depending on what that behaviour is, they treat them in a particular manner.

Let's carry out a thought experiment here. Supposing it were possible for people to assume any physical characteristics they wanted - like changing clothes. What do you think this would do for white racists attitude to colour? Would they still be racist towards people with darker skins? Or would skin colour become irrelevant as they looked for another sign to determine whether someone was part of the culture that they hated, like their accent or name?

Think about it.

Posted by Shoko Loko Bangoshe| 11.04.2007 16:03

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It is hard not to feel the residual effects of the seed that was planted deep inside your psychic by your ancestors, if you are unaware of its effect. It is hard not to feel the residual effects of your own thoughts when it rises up from underneath like vapor- coloring everything you see here and now-
When you consciously are aware that you are responsible for what happens to you in this planet earth, you will then begin to use each moment as a tool to navigate through life as you please. As a human being with immense power, you are in control of your thoughts- { The mind- like steel dug from the ground, when its heated in the fire, it melts- it does not matter where that steel was dug up from}. Whether black or white, we have the same equal amount of power- the difference is that one went forth first, perfecting what experience has brought into a perfection to suit it. Just because the white man seem to have it now, does not mean the African does not or never had it.

It's unfortunate that, what happened in the past is still affecting many today- coloring their judgment of the present and stealing their future right before their very eyes.
When we are aware that we are ultimately in control of our destiny, things change. In fact, people's view of you will have no effect on you, when you see it as nothing compare to your worth. It is this lack of awareness that makes many, fall into this cultural hole by feeling victimized, marginalized or discriminated against by majority culture.

When you think in the now, leaving behind the past, ( not letting the past color your perception of self) you are in control of your destiny. Am not saying that we should totally forget the past, and not learn from it, what ‘am saying is, it's high time we understand that the only master is oneself. And unless we are aware of the power that lies within, we will keep taking in what others thinks of us- invariably we become their dump bag- where any race of people can dump their negative thoughts. It's high time we understand that the white man has no more power than we have- Afrucans are just misdirecting theirs- by injuring themselves with the feelings of hate...

I cannot help but feel what Loudbro was talking about. I felt the words and saw it rising within me like vapor- the thoughts that he lay forth on this pages was causing me to think and feel sad and angered about what happened, or is happening, and for some seconds, I also began feeling pain in my chest... and then it occurred to me, to ask my self why I was feeling that? What I was feeling was lack of control. Somebody else’s thought has taken president over mine, and has rendered mine passive, thereby causing me to feel what his words intends…
I completely understand Loudbro point of view, about his thought on color issue. The truth is that power lies in now, how you feel about you?
What do you want to feel about? Should you continue to feel victimized and marginalized because someone does not like you because of the color he sees? NO. We change our destiny by changing how we feel about something- Oprah did not feel victimized as a descendant of people from Africa... Why should you? If you are nit liked because of someone perception of the color he sees- there is nothing you can do about that. You cannot shed your color as African, so it is time you see ourselves the way God intends and stop letting other people’s thought and judgment relegate or dominate your existence on this planet earth…. No man has the right or power to make you feel inferior unless you let him.?

Posted by b4best| 11.04.2007 17:16

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I'm not sure I agree with you b4best. Its not a question of inferiority, its a matter of a race deliberately trying to sabotage another race. Having lived in Washington d.c for over 8 yrs before moving to Memphis, I don't have a doubt that race does matter.
From the university politics to staffing in my department, its clear that there is such a thing as the "right color" As an administrator, I see less than outstanding whites being touted as "specialists" while excellent blacks are pushed to the background
Please don't misunderstand me, I'm not saying there are NO blacks in the higher echelons of the organizations, I am saying they have to be twice as good or tough to be where they are now
I have seen positions being created for certain people while others are left to fend for themselves after a residency.
For a race to continually show deep hatred to other races based on just skin color is just ... too hard to understand

Posted by sukaoma| 11.04.2007 21:44

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For a race to continually show deep hatred to other races based on just skin color is just ... too hard to understand...................................


I do understand your point.. but what should one do about that? There are laws these days for discrimination, and you can use it if you feel that you have been discriminated against... On the other hand, we do not have to take it. We can take action, have our own university and teach our own student- or don't we have the skill to do so?... Take Nigeria for example- see what is happening there... with all the resources we have, we can't even have a top notch hospital with all the money that is stolen...The president of Nigerian has to be constantly flown overseas for medical check up- now, tell me why won't the white man be resentful?
My dear, it is true that the white man has a deep seeded hate for himself- and that hate is been flung onto the people they percieve to be different- but we do not have to take that in- and feel that rubish- we can create our own...we can... we do not have to wait any longer... why wouldn't the white feel and act the way they do when we don't have our own.. look at it this way... if you go to somebody's house and he ask you to seat on the floor, while asking others to seat on the chair- because of the way he percieves you- my dear, if you know who you are, you don't have to go back to that house again- because, not only are you worthy of seating on a chair, guess what, you can create your own chair and seat on it the way you want- this way, you do not have to complain that your neighbor did not ask you to seat on his chair...

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Racism is a means to an end, the end being dominance. In every group of humans there is always someone or a group within a group that dominates, through politics, by force or attrition; the desire to dominate could be driven by fear-in the case of blacks & whites, the whites fear pay-back for past misdeeds, dislike/hatred or arrogance-‘we built this and invented that, we are better than you’. There is the family group, tribal groups, the country (no guarantee that the majority will dominate here, e.g. South Africa-dominance by force) and the world. In order to dominate you have to apply one of several tactics, I cannot list these tactics here because there are hundreds. If we take racism in particular, the tactics employed is what I call perpetual attrition; victims are gradually worn down, systematically diluting their will power. This kind of attrition comes in many forms; verbal abuse, name calling, demeaning jokes-like you had recently in American, the racist shock jock, blatantly ignoring or refusing to acknowledge a persons presence and intentionally moving away from a person for no apparent reason, staring at a person and falsehood, there are many more, all of them will-sapping. These tactics are applied everyday and certain groups have been victims of these tactics, from cradle to grave. I have witnessed several incidents of racism. It starts off with everyday abuse-you are dumb, you fool and so on. Then all of a sudden the racist ups the ante by calling the other person racist and derogatory names. On one occasion the racist asked the black victim-‘why don’t you go to another country’? Notice the subtlety, not ‘why don’t you leave my Country’. Something happens at this point, the victim stops! It’s like a brick has hit them, they are speechless and walk away. This happens to thousands of blacks everyday and it is heart wrenching. Eventually the weak are worn-down and it affects them in a terrible, soul-destroying way. The result is a lack of confidence. Especially in a Democratic society where the rule of law is highly valued, racists do not, in many instances, use violence, afraid of the consequences; words will do as much damage. One of most annoying question I hear ever so often is: why do black kids under-achieve in education? Why do Asian and White kids achieve better grades than black kids? The reason is blatantly obvious.

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'You are adressed the way you are dressed' Somebody said this on this site. In our case we are discriminated upon because we are black not just for our skin colour but for the blackness that seems to envelope us. Black people till date have deliberately refused to let go of the blackness within. Until we develop ourselves and let go of our evil tendencies the whiteman will continue to dominate us and rubish whatever efforts we put in to redeem ourselves. I wish to see the day the whiteman will come and claim political/economic asylum in our villages. Some folks here in the NVS will disagree with this and say all kind of hogwash, but let the truth be said. If we were the warriors our parents led us to believe, then why did we not colonise the whitefolks? The reverse seems to be the case and still does. Enough of this white vs black overflogged horse. Let us blame ourselves for our own failures. failures to dress ourselves and our mental capabilities therefore exposing the blackman to ridicule and disrespect from other racial communities. Make we go home go develop our place. Oyibo go respect us then.

Wetin wrong with blackman self?
Oyibo him no like us
Chinco him no like us
indie him no like us
Mexican him no like us
Arab him no like us
Blackman self him hate his buroda pass sheeet
Which is even worse, black vs black or White vs black? Make somebody please tell me.

Posted by Karo Akarah| 12.04.2007 08:36

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@ Karo,
'You wrote, "You are adressed the way you are dressed' Somebody said this on this site. In our case we are discriminated upon because we are black not just for our skin colour but for the blackness that seems to envelope us."

I say, Amen! So, what is this blackness? Could it possibly be those actions and cultural tendencies that are not maintstream?:idea:

Posted by uniben82| 12.04.2007 09:15

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=uniben82;167809>@ Karo,
'You wrote, "You are adressed the way you are dressed' Somebody said this on this site. In our case we are discriminated upon because we are black not just for our skin colour but for the blackness that seems to envelope us."

I say, Amen! So, what is this blackness? Could it possibly be those actions and cultural tendencies that are not maintstream?:idea:



There is a two part answer to the question of 'Blackness' one is this little poem.

'The blackness'

Oh you beggarly destitute
in want and misery you shall languish
in pains and suffering you shall pine away
lean and dry like a cripple's stick you shall become
if only you make me your friend.

Like wispy smoke he came creeping in
choking us with steel banded fingers
paralysing our faculty of reasoning
and killing off our self reliance.
Like a leech he sucked off our imaginations
and undermined our enthusiasm.

We trusted him and he discouraged our innitiatives
we made him leader and he led us
to an uncertainty of purpose.
wiping out our enthusiasm and making
our self control an imposibility.

We wore his clothes and that took
the charm off our personality.
he gave us drugs and that destroyed our
possibilty of acurate thinking
turning our will power into nothingness
and causing us untold miseries.

He smiled at us and that diverted our concentration
and killed our burning ambitions.
He beclouded our memories and failures
became our constant companion.
Ambush he laid and asasinated our love
killing the finer emotions of our hearts.

He baricaded our homes and drove our friends away
inviting disaster to us in a hundred fold.
our beds he wetted and that led us to sleeplessness
misery and unhappiness.
But amidst a world of over abundance
and anything our heart could desire
with nothing standing between us and our desires
BUT EXCEPTING A LACK OF A DEFINITE PURPOSE.

Posted by Karo Akarah| 12.04.2007 11:49

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